Have you ever looked in the mirror and wished for a complete and total makeover? I sure have! When the woman staring back at you is no longer recognizable and you really don't like the image your showing the world. It's almost as if they can see how you're really feeling on the inside, which is tired, run-down and frumpy. Uh-oh!
Feeling frumpy and disconnected from yourself are results that most women relate to on the outside. When you don't like what you see your first thought is probably to go shopping, get a new haircut or call a style expert like myself. But wait! Before you pick up the phone to make your first appointment there's something you should know: what you first need to makeover isn't your appearance, but really your mindset.
Say what? You may be wondering what in the world your mindset and your outer image have in common, but believe me, they are joined at the hip. If you're not liking what you see in the mirror, the work you should be starting with isn't a makeover in a traditional sense, but a makeover of your spirit. When you can makeover your mindset and your attitude the results will be much more meaningful, and when you do get that gorgeous new look it will feel much more right for you.
If making over your mindset sounds like too much work, and far less fun than being primped and preened by a team of professionals, hear me out. Getting a makeover on the inside is about personal growth, which leaves you with results that are much longer lasting than a physical makeover, and can have profound changes that affect every aspect of your life. Some things to consider next time you utter the words "I need a makeover":
1/ What's your motivation for wanting a new look? Perhaps you've been last on your list lately and it's time for a little self-care in the form of pampering. If this is the case, chances are your self-worth could use a boost. Carve out time each week for a special treatment, or simple just time to relax with a friend or a good cup of tea. When you make time to do those things that help you recharge, you send the message that you are important and can help you to have more to give back to others.
2/ What's Being Comfortable Costing You? If you sacrifice comfort for the sake of style, let me be the first to tell you that it doesn't have to be this way. But if you're staying comfortable in your life because you're afraid of change, ask yourself what it's costing you. If you're hiding out and playing small, chances are it's costing you some self-esteem and is leaving you feeling less than you're capable of, not to mention missing the financial and other opportunities that await you.
3/ Are You Letting Fear Hold You Back? You know what fear is, don't you? False evidence appearing real. You could be afraid of what others think of you, afraid you'll fail if you really try or afraid of the unknown. I'm going to tell you what I tell my daughter - feel the fear, and do it anyway. Once you're on the other side, the feeling is one of the biggest confidence boosters you can get!
Recently I heard a speaker talk about the differences between taking baby steps and playing small, and about the world of difference there is between the two. Taking baby steps each day to move you closer to your goal will get you there just fine. However, playing small doesn't serve you or those around you, and will only hold you back from your goals of looking and feeling fabulous! Making a little progress each day towards your goal of feeling great and looking great can result in a new look, but more importantly, and new mindset. So do what it takes to make you feel great and move you in the right direction because as my mentor says, 'without change comes stagnation'.