One Chic Mama

It’s My Birthday… And I want to give you a gift!

2012-01-04T12:49:00.004-05:00

Yes, today on the 4th of January I celebrate my 44th birthday. It’s hard to believe I’m now in my mid-forties (time flies when you’re having fun!) but I certainly don’t feel it and am proud to share my age.

It’s not all I want to share with you. I know you want to achieve big things this year and I want to help you by sharing my expertise. I’ve been at this for a very long time and feel that my knowledge can help give you the confidence and the edge you need to succeed in business, in your relationships and in your life! I know firsthand that when you don’t feel great about how you look it’s hard to show up as powerful, beautiful, successful…it can really undermine your confidence and leave you feeling that you’re just not good enough.

I want more for you. I want you to hit the ground running and feeling confident and in touch with the beautiful woman you were created to be! Feeling great about yourself is so much more than superficial. It’s about being more connected to who you are, which allows you to be more present for those you love. It’s about tapping into what make you, well, you. The way I approach style is not about wearing specific labels, dressing to look like everyone else (or even anyone else) or spending more than you can afford. It’s also NOT about creating an image that is not all you.

This year is all about YOU and being the best you can be. No, it’s not about ego, so put that aside for now. As Marianne Williamson says, “There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” When you are at your best you encourage others around you show their very best too. You shine like the beautiful woman you were created to be! There’s no better feeling than that of feeling confident, connected to yourself and empowered to be exactly who you are without apology. Yet it sometimes can seem so hard to know where to even start.

Can I share with you where your next steps to bringing out your very best for 2012 begin? I've put together 2 great packages that can help you look your best, whether you're here in Raleigh NC or on the other side of the planet. I want you to find your true style and use it to best advantage. But hurry, these prices are only good through January 11, 2012.

1/ Virtual StyleFinder™ Profile Package

Face Shape and Body Type Analysis
Personal Scale assessment
StyleFinder™ assessment
StyleFinder™ Elements of Style Cards
StyleFinder™ Blueprint
Book: Secrets of Style
Bonus: What to Wear seasonal ebook

**Bonus for the first 5 sign ups - a complimentary 30 minute wardrobe strategy call with me AND a copy of my book, Secrets of Style

Just $444 (Regularly $697)

Sign up here.

2/ Virtual Image Boost

EBook What to Wear: Top 10 Most Wearable Trends of the Season
Ebook How to Build a Wardrobe
Including checklists, worksheets and more
Personal Style Journal
Bonus: My latest book, Secrets of Style

Just $44 (Regularly $78)

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I look forward to helping you take your style to new heights in 2012!

XO
Michele

Image courtesy of Socially Inclined.

Breakthroughs, Confidence and Clarity, Oh My!

2011-12-14T11:16:00.003-05:00

As the year draws to a close, it's time to reflect on what your year was like. Did you have a major personal or professional breakthrough where you overcame a challenge that had been holding you back for years? Did your confidence kick in and help you to soar to new heights? Did you gain clarity on who you truly are and what you really want in life? My hope is that you experienced at least 2 out of 3. I know the clients I've worked with this year have. Here is just a sampling of the feedback I’ve received from my amazing clients just over the past week…

“Thanks so much for all the assistance! I feel more confident in wardrobe color selection and also am relieved that my black works for me. Your suggestions really helped me clarify ‘my best me’. “

“Thanks so much for a great image session yesterday. How exciting to begin the process of transformation! It was a treat to get your fresh perspective and I appreciate your very kind way of pointing me in the right direction on colors, styles, etc.”

“Huge breakthrough thanks to you...I have my confidence back and feel good from the inside - out. I am pleasantly surprised.”

They're taking their image and their lives to the next level and I couldn't be more thrilled! So I'd like to ask, what's next for you? Do you have big personal or professional goals for 2012? Would boosting your image, your self-esteem and your confidence help you to have an amazing year? Wouldn't it be great to step into a bigger and better version of yourself, inside and out?

Well, it's not only possible - it's affordable! At least for a limited time! Through Friday, December 15, I am offering my "Discovery" package that includes your color analysis, face shape, body type, personal scale and StyleFinder(tm) iD at almost HALF the regular price! This is the LAST time it will be offered for such a small investment and is a great opportunity to help you invest in your image and in yourself without breaking the bank.

Also, I've had do many clients asking about my Closet Clarity sessions that I've decided to extend my special pricing ($150 off regular price) through Friday as well. And with those specials, personal shopping is the next logical step. I'd love to help you at my 2011 rate that will be going up Friday as well. Book all three (Discovery, Closet Clarity and Personal Shopping) and I'll give you a special bonus copy of my book, Secrets of Style, plus my e-books, Beyond the Little Black Dress and What to Wear.

Make this the year you say YES! to you! Boost your confidence and go for your dreams. It all starts with your image.

Email me at michele@onechicmama.com to schedule a quick 15-minute Get Acquainted session to learn more about how I can help you to shine and be the amazing woman you were meant to be! I look forward to connecting with you.

*Image courtesy of askinyourface.com.

A Bra to Remember

2011-12-12T12:11:00.003-05:00

Lately it seems that I've had more conversations about bras than I can remember. I think in my line of work the topic comes up often because I always recommend to my clients that they have a bra fitting. But what I've found has been eye-opening. I've heard from many clients and friends alike how disappointed they've been with many of their not-inexpensive bras, and how bras don't seem to hold up or wear nearly as well as they used to. So I've been paying close attention to bras and trying to discern which ones make the cut.

Well the Playtex Secrets® Cotton Shaping Underwire bra certainly got my attention, and for all the right reasons. First, this bra comes in some wonderful colors and prints that appeal to my whimsical nature. But honestly, that only gets a bra so far. What really got me is the comfort and the full-coverage. After having 2 kids, I'm a bit more full-figured than I used to be, and spillage is not good. This bra offers seamless, full coverage that leaves me feeling confident that there won't be any strange bulges or ill-timed wardrobe malfunctions. That alone is priceless!

But wait, there's more! This bra is lightly padded cotton, so it moves and breathes. It works perfectly under a tee shirt, but does just as well under business attire and no one is the wiser. All I know is that I feel comfortable and supported, while sporting a sassy bra that is my own little secret.

Win one for yourself!

We're giving away one Playtex Secrets® Cotton Shaping Underwire in the style and size of your choosing. To enter, simply post a comment here and tell us what you love/hate about bras. What's your biggest challenge, what's your favorite brand or style, and what would you recommend to a friend. Deadline to enter is Midnight, December 18, 2011.

Get a Leg Up for the Holidays

2011-12-02T12:44:00.003-05:00

Ah, the holiday season is in full swing and parties abound. Chances are this means you're uncovering those dresses you've had stored away in the back of your closet or shopping for new ones. While the search for the perfect dress that fits well, is flattering and appropriate can be quite an undertaking, what can be even more nerve-wracking is deciding what shoes to wear and how to handle the issue of hose.

Here are some important points to ponder when making your footwear selection. After all, you don't want to ruin a gorgeous dress with the wrong choice!

1/ While black is the obvious choice and the perennial classic, wearing black shoes are not always the best choice. This is where your personal coloring comes into play. Your haircolor dictates what is necessary color-wise to create balance, so take note. If your hair is quite dark, black shoes will fit the bill. If your hair is medium opt for a medium shade such as gunmetal or a vibrant bright. If your hair is light, opt for nude shoes or a lighter metallic, which can lend an air of holiday sparkle to even your most basic little black dress.

2/ Opt for shoes that won't visually weigh you down in terms of color or chunkiness. Opt for sleek, elegant heels, strappy sandals and feminine wedges. Skip the big, heavy heels and the clunky clodhoppers which will just look out of place and work against you.

3/ If you're wearing open-toe shoes, do NOT wear pantyhose. This look is just awkward and can rarely be pulled off with sophistication and ease. Perhaps Kate and Pippa can do it, but I don't advise others to try it.

4/ Ordinarily I would recommend wearing black hose with black shoes. However, if your coloring is more fair, this will visually weigh you down. If you have to wear black shoes AND pantyhose, opt for nude hose. Preferably, though, you'd do better to skip the hose altogether. Never wear cream or white hose. NEVER.

5/ Elongate your legs and look thinner by wearing shoes in a color close to your skintone. Bonus - they go with everything! Black heels and hose will also do the trick but this can be slightly harder to pull off with light coloring.

If you're of the mindset that hose are a must, by all means find a pair that is the closest match to your personal skintone and you can't go wrong!

Organize Your Closet

2011-11-30T10:45:00.003-05:00

The following is a guest post from the amazing Julie Seibert of Healing through Organization.

I had a client who worked with another professional organizer. She told me more often than not the organizer would show up with one brown shoe and one black! Forget about fashion sense (okay, maybe not as I am writing this for Mary Michele’s blog!). This mishap made the organizer appear unprofessional and left a negative impression with the client. If you are organized you can avoid mistakes such as this that undermine your credibility or reflect poorly on you. Here are some suggestions:

It’s your closet so organize it how it makes sense to you! What works for your neighbor or co-worker may not work for you. Divide by business or casual? By color? By season? Once you have decided what works for you sort all your items clothes and accessories.

Once you have sorted, put all the items in a designated place; this is their “home.” Make sure you can see and reach all the items you need or they will likely stay there forever. If you need containers there are lots of options out there. I am a fan of repurposing what I have around the home. I took some pretty silver mesh filing trays I had and use them to store purses.

Personalize your closet to make it yours! I have a sign that says, “Believe in yourself” and a pink feather boa to remind me to have fun!

Sharing a closet? Give each person a side.

A few more tips:
• Store seasonal clothing and shoes under bed (feng shui advises against this, so perhaps an extra closet or attic) Repurpose blanket/bedding clear plastic containers to keep the dust away.
• Have lots of black & brown & navy? Use color hangers or reuse twist ties from bread to distinguish categories/colors of clothes.
• Keep your shoes in shoeboxes? Put pictures on the front so you don’t have to look through each box every time.
• Reposition/remove clothing rods to fit your needs.
• Use a bulletin board & pushpins to hold necklaces and make a pretty display.
• Gain space by utilizing hooks on the back of doors to hold scarves, belts, etc.
• Don’t cram everything in! Leave space for future purchases!
Finally, like most things in life your closet needs to be maintained. Set aside a few minutes daily (or 30 minutes at the end of the week) to hang things, put everything back in its place, etc. Go through your closet annually and let go of what you no longer love, doesn’t fit, etc. There are lots of worthy charities where you can donate and truly make a difference for someone who needs it!

Julie Seibert is the owner of Healing through Organization and was the first professional organizer in the State of North Carolina to specialize in being green. She is the 2011 Triangle Business Journal’s Green Entrepreneurial Effort/Innovative Idea of the Year Honorable Mention winner and was awarded the 2011 Green Award from National Association of Professional Organizers Los Angeles for Most Eco-Friendly Organizing Service.

Image courtesy of theredpin.com.

What's Your Style Story?

2011-11-28T14:32:00.005-05:00

Your style tells a story. It's who you are. Deep down, not just on the surface. At least when done right.

Which leads me to why I believe style is so important.

Style is an authentic expression of your true essence. It's who you are when no one's looking. It's your past, your future, your beliefs and your choices all rolled into one. Therefore, when you're expressing yourself authentically through your style, it just makes sense that those who find similarities in their own style are automatically drawn to you. Friends. Clients. Partners.

When getting dressed, think about what story your outfit tells. Sure, anyone can pull on khakis and a sweater. But it's what you add that makes it all your own.

That scarf you bought at the Marche aux Puces? Perfect.

The necklace that belonged to your great-grandmother? Absolutely!

The shoes you found at Nordstrom Rack on sale? Of course.

All three? Why not? As long as they are a true reflection of you, what you value and what you choose to express.

Your style is deeply personal. It's like the evil twin of fashion. Fashion is fickle by nature, ever-changing and rendering former versions of itself obsolete. Style is eternal, timeless and always spot-on.

You get to choose what your style says about you, your heritage, your life, your dreams, your desires, your regrets...

So what's your story?

Image courtesy of The Locals.

Add and Subtract for Accessory Success

2011-11-06T20:07:00.005-05:00

Math is not my forte. Never has been, never will be. Yet when it comes to adding and subtracting elements that create a fabulous outfit, I am an A+ student!

When I talk about an outfit that totally works and looks fabulous, I refer to it as being ‘greater than the sum of its parts’. What I mean by that is that the look, created from using seemingly simple pieces and highlighted with the appropriate accessories, seems to transcend fashion and is elevated to star style status. Yet achieving this can seem a little elusive. How to you know what will work with a certain outfit, and at what point do you reach overkill? To answer this I have created a simple strategy using a little, um, math. Yes, even though algebra left me feeling very challenged in high school I am not going to let a few numbers hold me back. I’m going to keep it simple, though, and stick with simple addition and subtraction.

To fully understand how a little math can help you to work wonders when it comes to accessories let’s start with a simple outfit such as dark wash jeans and a cute top, or even a simple shift dress. Then add in a cardigan in one of your best colors, a chic pair of shoes and a great handbag. From there, it’s time for a little jewelry.

First, define the look you want to create. Is it simple and elegant? Edgy urban? Feminine luxe? The good news is that accessories can transform your look and punctuate it to make a statement that is all you! So choose your them, then accessorize to your heart’s content!

Next, start with one piece of jewelry, say a great necklace. Don’t automatically assume that you NEED earrings with this. Too often I see women who are wearing a great necklace AND great earrings, but together there is no continuity, no harmony and the look is just overwhelming. If you do prefer earrings and a necklace, opt for pieces that complement rather than compete with each other. Then ask yourself what you could ADD to create a more unified look. If need be, skip the earrings or just wear simple studs. You want to take into account your personal scale and find accessories that are right for your stature and do not either overwhelm or get lost on you.

Then add in a cuff, a ring, a flower pin, a stack of bracelets, etc. This is where it can get tricky, but a little math will come to your rescue. With each addition, ask yourself ‘Is this piece adding or subtracting to my overall look?” When you spend some time playing around it will become evident how much is too much. If a piece is adding something to your look, it will appear ‘missing’ when you take it away. Your goal is to create balance and harmony, so continue adding until you feel that you’ve achieved balance. Don’t go overboard, but don’t be afraid to experiment. Adding too many items can often subtract from your look as a whole, but experimenting and finding that balance point can be useful in helping you know what to shop for as well as how to combine things easily.

Once you come up with a few combinations that you like, snap pics with your phone or your digital camera and refer back to them. This will make getting dressed effortless, and will help you to create outfits that are greater than the sum of their parts. You can so do this!

If you’d like to discover how to create a style that is authentic to you, email me at Michele@onechicmama.com to schedule a quick call that can change how you get dressed for life!

Image Enhancements through Plastic Surgery

2011-10-31T11:22:00.003-05:00

Women will often go to great lengths to seek beauty advice, often without even realizing it. After all, we all want to look our best, and these days there are many ways to enhance beauty and improve style. In fact, every time you take note of a fashion model on a billboard, or flip through a clothing magazine, or even observe celebrities on the red carpet, you are probably taking note of different ways that other women enhance their appearances. Indeed, from makeup to clothing and everything in between, there are a number of ways to perfect your look. But have you ever thought of looking elsewhere for more complete, long-lasting changes? A quick visit to AboutPlasticSurgery.com may give you some new ideas that you never considered before.

Now, like many other women, you may think that plastic surgery simply isn’t for you. After all, the way that a lot of people talk about it, plastic surgery seems as if it’s reserved for drastic cases and dramatic changes. However, if you really think about it – what is so bad about having a simple procedure one time versus carefully applying makeup each and every day, or every time you go out? Besides that, there are a number of surgeries that can accomplish common goals in very subtle but effective ways. Here are a few worth considering:

o Facelift – A facelift can take years off of your face by essentially making your skin as tight as it was in your youth, getting rid of problems like forehead wrinkles or bags under eyes. This can save you a lot of cover-up!

o Breast Augmentation – Let’s face it, many women consider this at one time or another, and while there is no need to have large breasts to be beautiful, changing your shape or size may help you to feel better about your own personal image.

o Rhinoplasty – More commonly known as a “nose job,” a rhinoplasty procedure can effectively alter the shape and size of your nose to help you to gain a more proportional, or more beautiful face. This too is a very common procedure.

Of course, these are just a few of the many different kinds of plastic surgery that there are. However, a bit of research on these procedures can show you just how common, and how effective, they are. This is not to say that you should definitely go out and have plastic surgery – but, the next time you are considering your look, and how to enhance your beauty, you may want to at least look into these and other procedures.

Having Your 'Colors Done' Has a Bad Rap

2011-10-26T06:10:00.009-05:00

Have you ever had your colors done? If so then you know exactly what I'm talking about. If you've never been privy to the experience, then you may be totally in the dark about what this means, so let me explain.

Having your 'colors done', or rather having a personal Color Analysis, is a process of determining your best personal colors based on your skin, hair and eye colors. While there are several systems out there, the system I use matches up your personal coloring to master coordinates. These coordinates are entered into a computerized program and your particular combination determines your personal color harmony, often based on the four seasons.

Now, as a style expert it is extremely clear to me why knowing your best colors is absolutely essential to looking your best. It's the first place to start, and just by changing the colors you wear (and ditching the black!) you can breathe new life into your style, make yourself look vibrant and alive and create a personalized look that brings out your best. Enough said, right? Yet over the years I have encountered more than a few skeptics when it comes to the color piece. After further discussion I have discovered that many women (and men, too) think that having your colors done seems hokey, primarily because of the way it was presented back in the 80's. I'd like to ask you to reconsider.

Read what my client, JJ Virgin, had to say:

"Honestly, I had heard about getting my colors done years ago but it always seemed a bit hokey and silly to me. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I know realize this is the starting point to building a great “success” wardrobe. Michele took me through the process of finding my 40 best colors and then showed me how to integrate my colors into my wardrobe and completely shifted my perspective. I understood why I gravitated towards certain items in my wardrobe and realized I’d wasted money on other pieces that just didn’t “feel right”. Had I only had this tool years ago I would have saved loads of money and time by not wasting both on searching for and buying pieces that just didn’t work for me. My color palette and checklist of basics makes shopping a breeze and amplifies my confidence on TV and the stage because I know what I have on is totally working for me. Thanks Michele!"

- JJ Virgin
Celebrity Health and Nutrition Expert, Co-star of TLC’s Freaky Eaters and author of “Six Weeks to Sleeveless and Sexy”www.JJVirgin.com

Having your 'colors done' became the trendy thing to do in the 80's. I remember clearly when my mom had hers done - she was a winter at the time - and had her own little color palette and just the 'right' makeup for her coloring. Color parties swept across suburban America like Tupperware parties and were a fun way for women to get together and learn about their coloring while trying new makeup. Wearing the 'right' colors became something that women thought was interesting but because of the presentation, many didn't take it too seriously. It was a fad, just like legwarmers and shoulder pads - one day it was here and the next day it was just a distant memory.

Fast forward thirty plus years later and having your colors done is something that, in my humble opinion, is absolutely essential to your image. Why? Several reasons. First, regardless of what you do during the day, wearing the right colors can boost your mood and your energy level. Color has the power to make you feel great - or make you feel drained. It can light your face up and make you look years younger. Knowing the right colors to wear can have a positive impact on your life from many aspects.

But also, in this day and age personal branding is tantamount to success. When you can create your Signature Style to help you stand out from the crowd for all the right reasons, you create a look that is memorable. When your picture is all over Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. wouldn't you rather be known for looking fabulous as opposed to the woman in the unfortunate color combination? Often times our first introduction to someone these days is online and that first image leaves a lasting impression. Wearing colors that make you look your best can influence how much a person wants to get to know you/do business with you/refer you and can make a difference in your career as well as your personal life.

So if you've had a not-so-positive opinion about having your 'colors done' I'd like to ask you to reconsider. After all, the color you wear is one of the first things people notice about you, and you only get one chance to make a first impression.

If you'd like to learn more about having a personal color analysis and how to transform your style to be authentically you, email me for more information.

Does Your Wine Match Your Shoes?

2011-10-20T13:01:00.007-05:00

Now that might be a funny question, yet when they're both from Salvatore Ferragamo, the answer just might be yes!

Flemings Prime Steakhouse & Wine Bar just released its newest private label wine: Forty-Six Diamonds Toscana 2009. Now you still might be wondering where the connection between wine and shoes comes in. Well, it just so happens that this label is the product of a collaboration between Flemings’s Wine Director, Maeve Pesquera, and Il Borro, the winery of quintessential luxury designer Salvatore Ferragamo, the Italian footwear designer.

This Forty-Six Diamonds Toscana 2009 label is now available in all of Flemings Prime Steakhouse & Wine Bar 64 restaurants across the country, including the Raleigh location. Unfortunately, you can't order a pair of chic shoes with your chic glass of wine, but you CAN get a taste of high-end fashion in a glass!

For our Local Readers:To celebrate the launch of Ferragamo's Forty-Six Diamonds Toscana 2009 Label, Flemings Prime Steakhouse & Wine Bar located at Crabtree Valley in Raleigh, NC is giving two of our lucky readers each a $25 gift certificate. To enter, simply Like our Facebook Fan Page and leave a comment there telling us about your favorite pair of shoes. The deadline to enter is October 31, 2011 at Midnight.

For fun, try Ferragamo's online outfit maker and see what chic creation you can come up with to wear on your night out!

[Look Fabulous for Le$$] Update Your Look

2011-10-19T12:25:00.007-05:00

With the economy in a state of flux, many of us are left feeling the need to hold on to our cold, hard cash. But life as we know it hasn’t come to a halt - we still want to dress well for business, date night, activities with the kids, and girls' night out. There’s got to be a way to look great without spending a lot of money! Actually, there are many ways to look great while keeping your bank account in check.

At the beginning of each season you want to do things to bring your look current. If you know anything about what I teach you know that I am NOT a big fan of going out and buying a brand new wardrobe each season. While there is a place for 'fast fashion' that is disposable by nature, I want you to think of your wardrobe as an investment that will last you for years to come. Once you have some great core pieces to start with (a suit, dark wash jeans, caramel trousers, items in your best basic colors) then you can do a quick assessment to decide what to bring in to help them look up to date. Each season there are a few small tweaks you can make to keep your look up-to-date, as opposed to dated, without spending a ton of cold hard cash. The small details make a big difference, so learn what’s in and get rid of what’s out. A little tough love in your closet will help you keep your wardrobe pared down and looking top notch, rather than drown in a sea of clothes you don’t like or never wear.

To start off, pay attention to the trends. Take note of women you see who are fashionable dressed, images you see in magazines or catalogs, and begin thinking about what look you'd like to create for the season.

Then take stock of what's already in your closet. Do any items need to be altered to fit you better or look more contemporary? Sometimes a minor alteration can produce major changes such as having that pair of jeans that drag the ground hemmed even if just 1/2". It can mean the difference between frumpy and fabulous!

I recommend that you create a LookBook of items you have in your closet already. Snap pics using your digital camera or smartphone so you have a quick reference guide. When shopping, refer back to these photos to know what will work in with what's in your closet right now. Then pull in a few items in some of the season's best brights (and your best!) to make your core items pop. Think tops, cardigans, a pair of bright trousers, a scarf and some great jewelry. Sometimes even just a little item can give you a lot of bang for your buck.

If you could only buy two items each season I recommend it be a fabulous pair of shoes and a great handbag. These can make or break an outfit and make a person look dated faster than anything else (except a dated hairstyle or makeup that’s not flattering). If you have a wardrobe full of core basics in solid colors, treat yourself to a great pair of wedges, booties or heeled loafers in a chic color (try either a nude or a bright). Invest in a great handbag – it doesn’t have to be a designer bag but select something stylish and chic. Try one in a bold hue or with a texture (your shoes and bag do not have to match, ever!). Then see how just these two elements bring a whole new perspective to your wardrobe!

*Crossed Moonbeams shoes $90 from Anthropologie. Big Buddha Tyler Python handbag $80 from Baghaus.

Look Fabulous for Le$$

2011-10-19T12:11:00.003-05:00

Women love clothes (and shoes, and accessories)! That's a fact that I know from my own experience as well as that of my clients. Yet as much as we love those things that help us to look chic, we appreciate a bargain even more! And why shouldn't we? With so many necessities competing for our hard earned cash, getting the best price on our finds helps us to stretch our budget a bit further.

So I want to introduce you to a new resource here at OneChicMama.com called Look Fabulous for Less. I'll be sharing my best tips for building a wardrobe, keeping your existing wardrobe looking up to date and treating yourself to a fabulous new pair of shoes - all on a budget! So keep an eye out every Wednesday, I may even be sharing my own shopping haul videos where I answer the often asked question "so, where do you shop?"

Great Jeans for a Song

2011-10-12T14:30:00.006-05:00

Premium denim has entered into mainstream culture and there's no sign of it fading. Yet what happened to being able to get a good-quality, well-fitting pair of jeans for a decent price? It seems like it's all about labels lately, but there's one label that has stood the test of time and that's Levi's.

Loved by people around the world, Levi's are the go-to jeans for many men, women and children - and with good reason. The were the pioneers in their industry, way back in the days of the gold-miner. So it stands to reason that Levi's, holding true to its roots, is still a pioneer in its industry. dENiZEN is Levi's new line created exclusively for Target stores that bring a line of fashionable AND well-fitting jeans at a very affordable price.

Crafted from premium denim, the dENiZEN line comes in women's sizes 2 - 18 (also men's and children's sizes) and are priced under $29.99. So if you've been debating whether or not to ditch your mom jeans and treat yourself to a new pair, wait no more!

Editor's Note: I received a pair of dENiZEN jeans for review.

Dresses for Every Body Type

2011-10-12T12:37:00.005-05:00

In my opinion there is no easier item to wear than a dress and this season dresses are everywhere! With the seasonal palette including colors ranging from nudes and neutrals to eye-poppping vibrant hues, you're sure to find gorgeous dresses in all shapes and styles. But do you know which style is right for your body type?

Take a peek at my guide to buying the dress that will be the most flattering on you. Once you're armed with this important information, dressing will be a breeze.

Hourglass figures are very curvy with balanced hips and shoulders. The most important thing an hourglass can do is to find a dress that has waistline emphasis. Sack dresses are not for you. You've got the curves, now go flaunt them! Show off your shoulders in this bombshell halter dress and you'll show off your assets a la Marilyn Monroe, a classic hourglass figure.

Pear Shape figures have a smaller upper body with most of their weight in the hips, thighs and buttocks. Choose a dress that visually creates balance with a sleeve or high neckline atop a full skirt that gracefully grazes the body. Avoid sleeveless dresses because they'll create a visual un-balance and can emphasize your heavy bottom half.

Apple Shape figures have a larger upper body than lower half with little waist definition. Create the illusion of a slim waistline with a self-belt or tie in the same color as the dress, or simply a fitted column-style dress that elongates the body. A V-neckline draws the eye downward, creating visual balance.

Rounded body types have a large chest, a protuding tummy and fullness through hips. Choose a dress in a darker solid for a sleek, minimizing effect. An open neckline helps to elongate the body and a soft tie at the waistline gives the illusion of a defined waist.

When it comes to hemlines, forget about what's "in" and what's "out" and go with the most timeless, flattering length - knee length or slightly above. This shows off great legs and will make you appear taller. If you must go longer, take care to ensure your hemline does not hit at the widest point of your calf. It will make your legs appear shorter and longer.

Happy dressing!

Is Going Cheap Making You Spend More?

2011-10-12T12:28:00.004-05:00

When you look in your closet what do you see? A thoughtfully planned wardrobe rich with investment items and peppered with those less expensive items that bring in a dash of style? Or do you see a hodge podge of items bought on the clearance rack at a department store, Old Navy or even Target, that don't actually go with anything? And they haven't been worn, like, ever. In fact the price tags are still on and you cringe every time you see that glaring $29.99 in red and think of how many lattes or fresh flowers you could have bought for that price (or even stashed away some of that money towards the $300 jacket you REALLY wanted).

Many women go shopping without any real goal in mind. You drift aimlessly from store to store in search of that 'perfect something', even though you have never defined what that is. Oh, you already know that you'd love to have those perfectly tailored camel trousers that could be worn 12 months a year and would go with just about every top in your closet, but they're $250 and that's way too much to spend on a pair of pants. So instead, you buy things to temporarily satisfy your desire but, like a craving for food, it never really does the trick. So you buy more to fill the void. You’ve overspent (much more than the $250 those pants would have cost) but all you have to show for it is a closet full of sale items that are just ok. Help!

Well, the good news is you're not alone. In my experience as an image consultant I see it all - the good, the bad and the ugly (so no need to be embarrassed). Most women don't grow up knowing how to build a wardrobe (yes, I said build - not just throw together) so we do the best we can. Trust me, I've been there. But instead of carefully planning out your wardrobe you end up with a random assortment of items that may (or in most cases, may not) go together. It can be an exercise in frustration to get dressed. But the worst part is how much money you throw away. When I show up at a client's home for a closet clarity session we get rid of all those items that don't suit them, don't flatter them or they just don't wear. My clients are often amazed at how many items they are able to let go of, but the biggest surprise is how much money they basically "threw down the drain" in items they never, or barely, wore.

Really, when you think about what you have in your closet versus what you actually wear, the truth might surprise you! When I leave a client's home after a closet clarity session, I leave with hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars' worth of items that will be donated to Dress for Success or other charities, or taken to a consignment shop (where they'll get back maybe 1/4 of what they actually paid for an item). So next time you go out shopping, think long and hard about what you buy. Because going cheap is costing you WAY more money than actually investing in a nice wardrobe would.

Here are some tips to help you plan your wardrobe and get the most bang for your buck:

1/ Buy items you truly LOVE and can't wait to wear. You'll relish each time you put them on and ensure that you get your money's worth.

2/ Do a cost-per-wear analysis - Figure up how long you might keep an item and how many times you might wear it during that time. For example, if you bought the $250 pair of pants and kept them for 5 years, wearing them 50 times per year, that's 250 times and comes out to be $1 per wear - a real bargain! Conversely, if you spend $40 on a trendy top that you keep for 1 season and wear 4 times, that's $10 per wear. Not such a bargain!

3/ When you buy something ensure that it goes with at least 3 items you already own (and wear).

4/ Learn your best colors and styles so you can be assured that you're buying what's right for you.

5/ Plan your wardrobe. I’m a big believer in creating a wardrobe strategy that supports you through days, weeks, months…When you look at your wardrobe as a comprehensive whole rather than just what you’re wearing at any given moment, it brings a new perspective to it and helps you to approach it more effectively. Working with an image consultant can save you valuable time and money. While it is an investment up front, the dividends will pay of handsomely for years to come! Invest your wardrobe dollars wisely and you'll reap the return.

Change your wardrobe and you can truly change your life!

Is Your Wardrobe Dragging You Down?

2011-10-06T09:56:00.002-05:00

When you go to your closet to get dressed in the morning it can become an automatic response to just reach for the first thing you see that is clean, doesn’t need ironing or that you feel is appropriate for the occasion without even stopping to think if it’s what you really want to wear. If you’re not fashion-minded then getting dressed may be one of your least favorite activities of the day. You reach for the basic, yet somewhat matronly combination of black pants and a deep red jacket without a second thought, glad you don’t have to put any more thought into your outfit. Getting it done and moving on to the next task is how you approach it. But what if there was more?

When it comes to shopping and outfit coordination, many women would rather have a root canal than be subjected to the overwhelming selection of available choices. Double-breasted or single? Pleated pants or flat front? And where exactly should the hem of the pants hit? So many choices can leave an otherwise sane woman throwing her hands up and saying ‘just be done with it already.’ Her attitude is slightly defeatist and leaves little or no room for self-expression. What happens is that this approach leads to a closet filled with items that are ill-fitting, uninspired and - gasp - matronly. What if there were a better way?

When it comes to building a wardrobe, many women are so focused on the outcome that they completely miss the process. The result is that they end up with clothing that could just as easily be worn by their mother or any other woman give or take 20 years, yet it does nothing to bring out her best. It’s clothing and does its job, but little else.

Expressing oneself authentically, I’ve found, is essential in feeling connected to who we are. Just throwing on that boxy jacket in a color that leaves you looking ill is not doing anything to show off your assets and show the world what an amazing woman you are. In fact, the message it sends is that you don’t matter. Oh, but you so do! So let’s look at how you can approach your wardrobe from a different perspective to give you better results:

1/ Scenario – you have a meeting with an important client so you reach for your go-to suit. It’s black and boxy and something you’ve had for, oh, 10 or more years. You figure it’s a classic and never goes out of style, yet the high-rise, pleated pants with tapered legs and the long, boxy blazer visually add 15 pounds or more, wash you out and leave you looking frumpy. You show up feeling less than confident and disconnected with yourself. Client is not impressed.

Solution – You take stock of your current situation, looking at your body type (the way it is RIGHT NOW), your personal coloring (your hair is lighter than it used to be) and your lifestyle and set out to buy a suit that reflects who you are at this stage in your life. Your perfectly tailored camel suit fits you to a tee. Its classic styling is the perfect look for your office environment and you know it will be a go-to option for years to come. You mix in tops in your best brights to give it personality and bring color and light to your face. You take time to put on your personalized locket with pictures of your kids. You show up feeling fabulous and looking effortless. Client is more than impressed, asks to see your kids’ pictures and you two connect on a whole new level.

2/ Scenario – You have a wedding coming up for a distant relative. You really loathe shopping so you decide to wear the same dress you wore to the last family wedding 6 years ago, along with the same shoes, the same purse and even the same jewelry. You figure “It works, why not?” But what you don’t realize is that the dress was never flattering to begin with. Now it’s too snug, needs to be hemmed about 2” and with its navy floral print, probably isn’t the most contemporary choice. Family you haven’t seen since the last wedding will remember your outfit and think they’re stuck in a time-space continuum. You can’t wait until the wedding is over so you can take this outfit off.

Solution – Instead of going with a dated and frumpy choice that was so wrong years ago, you decide to show up looking sleek and chic. Wanting a dress that will wow, but will also offer versatility (you can also wear it to work with a cardigan or jacket) you opt for a simple and elegant sheath dress in a gorgeous shade of violet. Your style is classic, so you love that pearls are hot this season. You pile on several pearl necklaces to give your dress a punch and then opt for a great pair of gray snakeskin pumps to take your look to the next level. Family and friends you haven’t seen in years all tell you how amazing you look and ask if you’ve lost weight. You feel so fabulous that you dance the night away and are one of the last guests to leave. This wedding will be a very memorable occasion for all the right reasons.

I’d like to invite you to approach building and planning a wardrobe as a fun process that lets you express who you are and helps you to look amazing. When you have all the right tools and information, it can be broken down into a simple process that can easily be followed for years to come. And, dare I say, it might even become something you enjoy!

If you’d like to bring your wardrobe current and need to start with a great foundation, email me at Michele@onechicmama.com to discover how I can help you take your look to the next level.

Are You in Love with You?

2011-09-03T14:15:00.002-05:00

It's said that love conquers all and love comes in different forms. Whether you're in a relationship or on your own, there's no better time to be reminded to practice the art of self-love than right now. I want to encourage you to love yourself up! Treat yourself like you would your romantic partner, your best friend or your kids. It's time to do something nice just for you!

It's a sad reality that women talk quite ugly to themselves at times, belittling their accomplishments, begrudging themselves for eating a second piece of chocolate or berating themselves for the size of their thighs. In a recent study by Glamour Magazine, 97% of women said at least one negative thing to themselves each day. Are you in that 97%? If so, it's time to break free from the self deprecating comments and turn off the negative tape that plays over and over in your head.

“It’s your body, you can do whatever you want to with it – including love it. Choose that, just for now.” ~Sandy Kumskov

What happens when you walk around with all that negativity about yourself? For starters, your view of the world becomes glass half empty pretty quickly. Your perception of things is more negative. You become critical of others, and in doing so are critical of yourself. You build a wall around you that disconnects you from others, as well as from yourself.

I want you to tear down that wall and let your true self be revealed in all your glory! Show the world all that you have to offer and embrace yourself for who you are, rather than put yourself down for who you are not. We were not all created to be Angelina Jolie so just stop trying. And if you can't help be continue to compare yourself, ask yourself if you'd really want to deal with all her problems the tabloids have exploited over the last few months. I certainly wouldn't.

Your Challenge: To celebrate Valentine's Day I'd like to challenge you to love yourself today. No nasty comments, no looking in the mirror and putting yourself down. You may be asking, how to get back to loving yourself. After all, you've neuroligically programmed your mind to repeat those negative comments and now you don't know how to stop them. Here are a few ways to get you started. Try them and see what a difference you can make in your life, as well as in the lives of those around you!

1/ Start your day with gratitude. Write down at least 5 things you are grateful for. It will help you to shift your thinking just with this one act.

2/ Notice something about you that's gorgeous. Do you have lustrous hair, beautiful lips or a curvy shape? Do something to play it up: add a pretty hair accessory, wear a new shade of lipstick or wear a figure-flattering dress. Then note how you feel when you do just this one thing. It can help you see how beautiful you truly are! When you can begin to see your own beauty, your world expands. Seeing your own beauty is about accepting yourself for who you are- and loving every square inch of you! It’s about saying ‘YES’ to you!

3/ Use affirmations. Try this one: Comparing myself to others keeps me small, but seeing my true and unique beauty sets me free. Write it on your mirror (in lipstick:) or print it out and keep it with you. Refer back to it when you catch yourself talking negatively to yourself and see how it can help you to feel great about you!

4/ Give of yourself. Doing something nice for another, or giving a compliment, is a wonderful way to feel great about you! And more often than not, giving a compliment gets a compliment in return, which can help you feel even better! Don't keep to yourself- share yourself with the world!

5/ Do something just for you. Enjoy a piece of decadent chocolate. Take a bubble bath. Buy yourself flowers. A simple act of self-love will leave you feeling indulged and recharged.

How to Ease Your Wardrobe into Fall

2011-08-29T09:35:00.003-05:00

Here in the south once the warm weather sets in it's here to stay for some time. With fall on the horizon, I'm chomping at the bit to layer my outfits up and rock some new fall looks, but when the temperatures are hovering above 90 it can really put a damper on wardrobe choices.

These few transition months between summer and fall can be tricky to navigate. With fall on the horizon, you don't want to look like you're ready for spring break, but the thought of piling on lots of layers makes you sweat just thinking about it. What to do? Here are some of my best tips for navigating this awkward transitional period with ease and grace:

1/ Change Your Shoes - Swap your perfect summer sandals for a pair of peep toe booties in a deep color (black, caramel, chocolate) and your look will be thrust into the fall category in no time flat. This is by far one of the easiest ways to change your look. These look great with skirts (try a maxi), dresses and cropped pants and will quickly become your go-to pair. Not for you? Try a pair of short boots, clogs or other fall style and pair them with your best summery skirt or dress for a fresh look.

2/ Go Deep - In color, that is. While many summer-y looks are identified by their bright, fruity color palette, you'll want to tone it down a bit for fall. Sure, you can still rock a pretty floral dress or skirt, but anchor it with a darker, more earth-toned top, jacket or accents to give your look a heavier appearance visually, which is more appropriate for the upcoming season.

3/ Glitz it Up - While summer is a wonderful time for a pop of brights in your jewelry, give the look a more serious tone by swapping it out for bold, rich metals accented by the season's palette including reds, burnt sienna's and rusts.

4/ Add a layer - Just adding on another layer to your sundress or skirt and top can give your look a whole new life. Try a short sleeved jacket in a cool plaid, a tailored vest in a neutral solid or a cardigan in a deep, rich tone to kick it up a notch while still helping you to keep your cool when layered over a lightweight dress or tank top.

5/ Make Your White Just Right - White denim no longer falls into the classification of things you put away after Labor Day. It has been catapulted into perennial style-status to make its appearance all year long without breaking the rules. But to give yours an autumnal turn you'll need to accent it differently than during the summer months. Think Jackie O in her white jeans, black turtleneck and black flats - such a classic. Pair yours with something that's darker in color, layer up textures and don a pair of shoes that scream fall and you're right on target.

Email me at michele@onechicmama.com to discover how I can help you to start the fall season off looking chic – but most importantly, helping you to get dressed quickly and easily. Want to read more of my secrets of style? Sign up for my weekly ezine at www.onechicmama.com.

Are You Last on Your List?

2011-08-18T16:46:00.001-05:00

As women, we are often the caregivers for our family and we work hard to take care of those we love. Yet when we are constantly caring for others our tank becomes empty and our batteries need to be recharged. Taking time out to take care of ourselves can help to refuel us so that we have more to give. When we’re replenished we’re happier, more relaxed and able to take on life with a more positive attitude. Plus when we boost our image we boost our self confidence! But where to start? If it's been so long since you've taken time out just for yourself you don't even know where to begin, here are a few suggestions to get you started. But don’t just stick to my list, take these and run wild!

1. Have your makeup updated for the new season - Try new colors, techniques and products. Choose an afternoon where you have time to relax and indulge yourself so you're not feeling rushed and ask for the works. Take note of application techniques and ask questions. Then buy only those products you know you’ll really use.

2. Reassess your lingerie – Do you still have bras from ten years ago? Ditch ‘em and take yourself for a bra fitting. Most lingerie boutiques and many department stores have knowledgable sales people who can help and make recommendations just for you. But don’t stop with bras. Take stock of your panties and give shapewear a try. Along with another year come new bumps and bulges. Shapewear can help smooth these out and have you looking slimmer and trimmer than ever! Add in some necessities, as well as some fun lingerie that makes you feel feminine – and dare I say, sexy!

3. Have a fit – Do you have pants that drag the ground? Skirts that graze mid-calf? Jackets that are just enough too long that they make you look shorter? Then go through your closet and have those items that need alterations taken to the tailor. It’s amazing what alterations can do to boost your image and help your clothes fit like a glove.

4. Adorn Yourself – Are you afraid of wearing accessories or don’t know where to start? Well it’s time you became in the know! Jewelry, scarves, handbags, hats and shoes are the quickest (and most fun!) way to update your look and create a polished image. Start small and create a “signature” item: if you find you really love bracelets then start a collection and wear several at once. If you love handcrafted earrings then build your outfits around them. You’ll create your own unique style in the process.

5. Don’t Lose Weight – Yes, you read that right! No matter what your weight, you’re beautiful right now! What, you can’t see it because you’re hiding behind that muu muu? Well it’s high time you packed those baggy sacks away and put on clothes that show YOU off. Focus on your best assets (your eyes, your legs, your hair, your smile!) and the rest will just melt into the background. Don’t forget accessories, but most importantly, wear your confidence - you are gorgeous! Don’t be surprised if you get asked, “have you lost weight?’ Simply smile and relish the attention!

6. Make a date with yourself – When’s the last time you put YOU on your schedule or your to-do list? I want you to schedule some time just for you this week. On your calendar, in pen. It could be an afternoon of shopping or just browsing, a trip to the spa, or just some time spent at the bookstore reading magazines. My point is that you don’t have to spend any money but you do need to take some time.

7. Start a style journal – Write down ideas for outfits, paste in pictures of things you think are very YOU, record any drawings of details or accessories you’d like to look for. Take some time to think about your personal style and reflect on how it’s changed over the years. What common elements do you see? Do you feel your style needs an update? If so, what could you quickly and easily change that would give you a boost?

8. Pretend you’re a tourist – Dress up and wear your nicest dress, that hat you've been saving or that expensive blouse out on a lunch date with your girlfriend, your man or even yourself. You don’t have to be in New York or Paris to dress like it! Wear things in a way you wouldn’t normally in your home town. Book a reservation at that little bistro you’ve been wanting to try. Sip champagne or have a cappuccino. Take the rest of the day off for sightseeing and shopping. Take pictures and see things in a new way. You’ll go home with a fresh perspective and an appreciation for being right where you are.

9. Have a spa party – Invite your girlfriends over or just powwow with your daughter. Have a special snack and do nails, tweeze brows, brush hair, play with makeup and give massages. It’s a nice “girls’ night in” and a great way to catch up on some personal grooming.

10. Play with color – If you have a closet filled with black, try experimenting with color. Wear your best colors around your face and see what kind of effect they have on your appearance and your attitude. Have your colors done so you can know for certain which blue is your very best and find the right yellow for YOU.

Bookending: Is it Really That Important?

2011-08-13T13:22:00.002-05:00

Many of my clients have heard me use the term ‘bookending’ when it comes to wearing color, and have heard me discuss how it can help them to create harmony in their wardrobe. If you’ve never heard of this before, let me explain what I mean.

Bookending, as I refer to it, essentially means repeating your haircolor in your shoes. You ‘bookend’ your look with similar colors, which create harmony and balance in your outfit while creating a personalized look that flatters you. It is a great way to bring in your best colors and highlight your own personal coloring and can be a great way to wear one of your very best basic colors.

But is bookending really necessary? My two cents worth is this: it is important, but it's not the be all, end all. What I mean is that it’s a nice way to streamline your look, but can just as easily limit you in your choices. Here are my best secrets for bringing bookending into your wardrobe for best effect, and when to pass it by:

1/ Discover a new neutral. If you want to move away from wearing black and discover an alternative that will not only flatter you but have a lovely, personalizing effect on you, repeating your haircolor in your shoes as well as in your trousers or skirt will do this beautifully. This is great, especially if you have light-colored hair and can help you to create a look that doesn’t overwhelm your delicate coloring.

2/ Build Your Wardrobe. By bookending, and wearing your haircolor in your shoes, your pants, your suits, your skirts…you build your wardrobe around one of your best basic colors. This gives you more versatility while flattering you to best effect. Just add in some of your best accent colors to change it up and give your look some punch and you’re on your way to having a wardrobe that multitasks and gives you options for years.

3/ Expand Your Horizons. Sure, bookending is a great trick when you’re not sure what shoes to wear with an outfit, but don’t let it stifle your creativity. If you have brown hair and you REALLY want to rock your raspberry suede pumps or your leopard print heels, then go for it! You’ll express your true style and feel more like you!

4/ Create Balance. Even if you don’t wear shoes in your exact haircolor, use this hue as a guideline for the intensity of your shoes. If you have really blonde or silver hair, wearing chunky black, or very dark, shoes will look visually heavy. Wearing something in a taupe, cognac or gray would look more balanced, provided what you wear between isn’t too dark and heavy. Let your hair and the contrast it provides with your skin, be your guide in creating the perfectly balanced intensity when it comes to color.

5/ Feel Confident. If you’re stepping away from black for the first time, or just not very confident in putting your outfits together, bookending is a great way to know for sure that you’re wearing the best color for you. No more wondering, ‘does this work?’ You’ll know it does!

All in all, I say bookend when you aren't sure, but when you want to express your personal style, wear what you LOVE and mean it!

Style Limited

2011-08-02T11:43:00.004-05:00

I have been a fan of the women's shop, The Limited, for as long as I can remember. Growing up in a small town in North Carolina, my family would regularly make the trek to the more metropolitan cities of Fayetteville or Raleigh to do our shopping at their big malls. One store that was always on our list was The Limited. In fact, I clearly remember an outfit I had in high school that was one of my all-time favorites. It was a very defining outfit for me and I think I wore the pants until they literally fell apart. So my love affair with The Limited runs deep.

Over the years I have shopped at The Limited with great success, and I recently won a gift card for $25. It had been a little while since I had been in but I was so excited with what I found. For just a little more than my $25 card I was able to take home a lovely tank in a shimmery sage green (it brings out my eyes) and a gorgeous teal mesh knit dress that is simply fabulous - and they were both on the clearance rack so the prices were equally as fabulous.

Well, ladies, I have good news for you! You, too, can win a gift card of your very own from The Limited. To celebrate the grand opening of their new store at the Streets at Southpoint in Durham later this month, The Limited has given me not one, but two $50 gift cards to give away. These come just in time to boost your fall wardrobe with some of their gorgeous color-blocked tops, their elegant yet modern suiting, or their wonderful accessories.

I'm excited to see the new The Limited store at the Streets at Southpoint that Linda Heasley, CEO of The Limited, calls “more feminine, more approachable and more residential in feel.” Beginning on Thursday, August 25 and going all weekend long, the grand opening will feature a fashion show, sales and raffles as part of the celebration. A percentage of sales from the opening weekend will benefit the Ronald McDonald Houses of Durham and Chapel Hill.

Win a Gift Card

If you'd like a chance to win one of two (2) $50 gift cards for The Limited, just leave a comment here and tell me what your biggest obstacle is when it comes to getting dressed. Feel free to be as general or as specific as you'd like, but I want to hear it all - the good, the bad and the ugly. You'll instantly be registered to win (don't forget to include your email address). The deadline is Midnight, EST, August 15th, 2011 and the gift cards can be used at your local The Limited store.

Redefine Beauty on Your Own Terms

2011-07-20T08:05:00.003-05:00

When you think of beauty, or a beautiful woman, what comes to mind? Chances are an airbrushed model with a rail thin body, flawless skin and perfect hair that flows down her back. Once you can picture her, what’s your next thought? Chances are, it’s “I could never look as good as she does in a million years. I hate her.”

While hate is a strong word that I don’t like to use, it’s a word that is used all too often when you compare yourself to someone to whom you think you could never match up to. So your defenses go up and you deflect your insecurities with a few cutting words that make you feel like you’re in control. But instead of being in control of your emotions, what this tells me is that it’s a hot-button issue for you. Maybe it’s time to redefine what beauty means to you.

The word beauty is defined at dictionary.com as the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind, whether arising from sensory manifestations (as shape, color, sound, etc.), a meaningful design or pattern, or something else (as a personality in which high spiritual qualities are manifest). Therefore, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and can be construed in a multitude of ways.

In our culture you have come to equate the notion of beauty with something that doesn’t necessarily exist in nature. You look at magazines and television and hold yourself up to the ideals portrayed in these media. What this does is creates an unrealistic expectation that you can never live up to (even the models don’t really look like their Photoshopped likenesses) and causes countless (and needless) comparisons which cause you to always feel inferior. Indeed, it is feelings of inferiority that the advertisers and purveyors play on to create a never ending demand for their goods. While these feelings may be putting billions of dollars into the pockets of the fashion industry, it’s time we women took back our self confidence and said NO MORE! It’s time that we redefined beauty on our own terms! How? Read on.

1/ To begin shifting your ideal of what beauty means to you it’s time for a little self-examination. To see beauty in others, you must first see it in yourself, so start by looking in the mirror. Instead of putting yourself down, take a closer look and see yourself through new eyes. What do you appreciate about your face, your hair, your body, your personality? Write it down and make a note to yourself. Put that note in your mirror and look at it every single day as a reminder. Play up whatever it is in the best way possible and show the world what you’ve got!

2/ Trust your intuition. This means everything from what clothing feels great on you to what to have for dinner to whether to leave your career and set out on your own. When you trust yourself and listen to your heart you build a confidence that is unrivaled and can send your self-worth soaring! There is nothing more beautiful than a confident woman who believes in herself, so this is key.

3/ Give it away. Share of yourself and your gifts in whatever way feels natural. It could be a simple act of kindness, volunteering or simply creating a business that lets you do what you do best to help others. Feeling fulfilled in your life will set off a chain reaction that leaves you exuding joy from the inside out. When you give to others it is a beautiful feeling that simply adds to your own natural beauty. After all, beauty radiates from the inside out – it doesn’t start with designer clothing but with a pure spirit and a joyful heart.

4/ Appreciate how you’re different. Whether you’re well-endowed or flat-chested, a size 0 or a 22, love the skin you’re in. We’re all created unique and were not meant to be carbon copies of each other. Embrace what you have and flaunt it to best effect. When you revel in your glory those around you will begin to appreciate every square inch of you too! You are good enough, no matter what and when you begin to feel whole and connected to yourself, your beauty can’t help but shine through!

Want to know how I can help you discover your own true beauty? Just e-mail me at Michele@OneChicMama.com to set up a 15-minute get acquainted call and discover how you can look your best each and every day!

Photo Credit: Solve Sundsbo from http://www.bvonstyle.com

Infuse Your Summer with Flavor

2011-07-15T16:27:00.002-05:00

With the summer heat in full swing chances are you're downing a lot of water these days. If you're ready for a change, why not try a little flavor?

Crystal Light On-the-Go is a quick, easy and convenient alternative to soft drinks. Simply tuck it into your purse, your pool bag or your car and you have a little something extra to add to your bottled water that's a lot less expensive than soda.

Available in several flavors, the favorite was lemonade. My daughter preferred the strawberry, and the peach tea has become a staple with my mom and my sister.

With so many flavors and a wonderfully convenient package, summer is a great time to give Crystal Light On-the-Go a try!

Just Be You!

2011-07-14T06:12:00.001-05:00

Last week when I made an appearance on the TV Show, My Carolina Today, one question I was asked is how to feel great about our wardrobe, in our own skin and in our clothes. My answer? Simple. Just be yourself and let your true beauty shine through. Sounds easy, right? Actually, it can be just that easy but we are weighted down by so much emotional baggage that we think it has to be hard.

While there are many reasons you may not feel confident about yourself, let’s take a look at a few simple strategies that may make a difference for you.

1/ First, ask yourself what you’re tolerating about your appearance. Negative self talk may give you clues to things that you really want to change. Have you wanted to lose 20 pounds for the last few years but just can’t seem to buckle down and do it? Are you tired of looking the same, year after year, but make no effort to change your appearance? Has your once-chic hairdo become a hair don’t? Has it been ages since you’ve invested in a new wardrobe for yourself because you just don’t feel worthy? When you look long and hard at those things that you’d really like to change, and then do it, you release a lot of stagnant energy and free yourself up to focus on the positive.

2/ Next, discover what’s amazing about you. Maybe you have gorgeous legs, a well-proportioned body or a killer smile. Whatever it is – and this is where I truly mean whatever – play it up to the hilt! You want to let that be your focal point and what you build your look around. If your small waist is your best asset, then don’t hide it behind big, baggy clothes. Wear fitted clothing that shows your shape (yes, even if you’re a plus-size!) and watch the compliments come pouring in. This keeps the attention on what’s good and away from everything else.

3/ Stop Comparing! I know this may be easier said than done, but seriously, do you really think you’re supposed to look like the airbrushed models in the magazines (who don’t even look like that in real life) or the glammed up celebs who spend 75% of their time (if not more) on their appearance and have a noted professional to help them manage everything from their weight to their wardrobe on any given day? I don’t think so! Let’s redfine beauty and begin by loving what you see in the mirror. Yes, I said loving – don’t just fall in like with yourself. If you find this hard to do, take baby steps and start one finger (or toe) at a time and continue until you fully love who you are, inside and out! If you’re not happy with your appearance, refer back to #1 and take personal responsibility for it. Only you can make the change.

4/ Dress for you, and for you alone! If you’ve found yourself wearing your hair long because your husband prefers it that way, or wearing a particular style of clothing because your mother always told you it was best for you, then I want to invite you to become a rebel. One of the true keys to confidence and feeling great in your own skin is being in touch with yourself. This means expressing yourself authentically and dressing for the person you truly are. Trust me, when your husband or your mother see how you amazing you look when you rock the short hairstyle you’ve always wanted or the dress you were always told you couldn’t wear, they will be astounded and ask you why you didn’t make the change sooner.

5/ Create Your Signature Style. This is taking authentic dressing to new heights. When you create your signature style it is a way of expressing your innermost self on the outside. Wear the colors you are magnetically drawn to, the shapes that make you feel powerful and the accessories that help you feel more connected to who you are. When you’re wearing something simply because you thought you should, you’re missing the point and the opportunity to really shine.

6/ Trust Yourself. Honestly, this is key to feeling confident in any aspect of your life, but especially when it comes to getting dressed. If you put something on and it makes you feel like you’re disconnected from you, take it off asap! When shopping, don’t listen to what the sales associate or your BFF say if it doesn’t jive with what your gut is telling you. Only you know what’s right for you, and when you listen you will be greatly rewarded. Let your intuition guide you in wearing the clothing that’s going to make you feel fabulous, confident and unstoppable!

Why live life dressing in a mediocre replica of someone when you could be a fabulous first-edition? Just being yourself is all it takes to create a stand out style that’s irreplaceable and leaves you feeling fabulous!

Want to know how I can help you create your best look regardless of the season? Just e-mail me at Michele@OneChicMama.com to set up a 15-minute get acquainted call and discover how you can look your best each and every day!

Celebrate Your Style Independence

2011-06-30T14:18:00.005-05:00

With Independence Day coming up I'd like to encourage you to celebrate your own Style Independence- that is, celebrate just being you! We're all unique and amazing in our own way, and as Karl Lagerfeld so eloquently put it, "personality begins where comparison ends."

Lady Gaga is a great (even if extreme) example of owning who she is and being herself. We live in a culture where everyone compares themselves to each other, to the magazines, to the celebrities on the big screen. It's downright frustrating, not to mention depressing. Yet when women can own who they are and celebrate their own unique beauty, then there is a real magic that happens. When we negate what we look like and talk negatively about ourselves (even if only to ourselves) we send a negative message that we're not good enough. When we stand in our power and love every inch of ourselves, cellulite and all, then we send a very different message. That message is empowering and helps us to embrace our female energy.

We're all born different. When we look around we see the perfection in others, but seldom recognize it in ourselves. Others are simply a mirror for your own beauty, although in reality you may look very different. All women are born beautiful. When you can take what you're given and play it up, dress to enhance your curves rather than try to hide your shape, show off your eyes, your hair, your legs and feel fabulous in the skin you're in, you'll begin to feel it.

Action items:

What three things do you love about yourself?

How could you play them up to help you look amazing?

What makes you unique? What could you do to express that in your style to let others connect with you?

Show off who you are and just be YOU! 'Always be a first-rate version of yourself rather than a second rate version of someone else.'

Is Going Cheap Making You Spend More Money in Your Closet?

2011-06-30T06:56:00.003-05:00

Why does this happen? We set off with good intentions but go shopping without any real goal in mind. We drift aimlessly from store to store in search of that 'perfect something', even though we have never defined what that is. Oh, we already know that we'd love to have those perfectly tailored camel trousers that could be worn 12 months a year and would go with just about every top in our closet, but they're $250 and that's way too much to spend on a pair of pants. So instead, we buy things to satisfy our desire but, like a craving for food, it never really does the trick. So we buy more to fill the void. We've overspent (much more than the $250 the perfect pair of pants would have cost) but all we have to show for it is a closet full of sale items that are just ok. Help!

Well, the good news is you're not alone. In my experience as an image consultant I see it all - the good, the bad and the ugly (so no need to be embarrassed). Most of us don't grow up knowing how to build a wardrobe (yes, build - not just throw together) so we do the best we can. Trust me, I've been there. Instead of carefully planning out your wardrobe you end up with a random assortment of items that may (or in most cases, may not) go together. It can be an exercise in frustration to get dressed. But the worst part is how much money you throw away.

When I show up at a client's home for a closet clarity session I clean out all those items that don't suit them, don't flatter them or they just don't wear. They are always amazed at how many items they are able to let go of, but the biggest surprise is how much money they basically threw "down the drain" on items they never, or barely, wore.

Really, when you think about what you have in your closet versus what you actually wear, the truth might surprise you! When I leave a client's home after a closet clarity session, I leave with hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars' worth of items that will be donated or taken to a consignment shop (where they'll get back maybe 1/4 of what they actually paid for an item, if they're lucky). So next time you go out shopping, think long and hard about what you buy. Because going cheap is costing you WAY more money than actually investing in a nice wardrobe would.

Here are some tips to help you plan your wardrobe and get the most bang for your buck:

1/ Buy items you truly LOVE and can't wait to wear. You'll relish each time you put them on and ensure that you get your money's worth.

2/ Do a cost-per-wear analysis. Figure up how long you might keep an item and how many times you might wear it during that time. For example, if you bought the $250 pair of pants and kept them for 5 years, wearing them 50 times per year, that's 250 times and comes out to be $1 per wear - a real bargain! Conversely, if you spend $40 on a trendy top that you keep for 1 season and wear 4 times, that's $10 per wear. Not such a bargain!

3/ When you buy something ensure that it goes with at least 3 items you already own (and wear).

4/ Learn your best colors and styles so you can be assured that you're buying what's right for you.

5/ Plan your wardrobe. Working with an image consultant can save you valuable time and money. Invest your wardrobe dollars wisely and you'll reap the return.

Email me at michele@onechicmama.com about a Wardrobe Strategy Session and see how I can help you, no matter where you are! Change your wardrobe and you can truly change your life!

Editor's Note: July marks the beginning of some of summer's biggest and best sales. This post is just the beginning of a whole series on how to 'Look Fabulous for Less' that will help you know where to put your hard-earned cash to look your fabulous best, day after day. So stay tuned for many more budget shopping tips coming your way!

Find Your Perfect Swimsuit

2011-06-27T10:18:00.001-05:00

Now that summer is here, chances are shopping for the perfect swimsuit is on your to-do list. While swimsuit shopping is about as popular as a root canal, success at selecting the perfect suit for your body type can leave you feeling confident and looking fabulous.

The key to finding the best swimsuit for you lies in the cut. You want to choose the best cut to enhance your shape, so let's start with the basics. If your body type is:

Pear Shaped: You carry more weight below the waist than you do above the waist. Pear shapes often have a lithe upper body, so show it off! While it might seem counterintuitive, you want to seek out a top that has full-coverage, whether choosing a one-piece or two-piece. These chic styles above have a retro flair and the ruching at top helps to create balance with a skirted bottom, which can offer a little extra coverage. If you opt for prints, go for an overall print, or wear your print on top for best effect.

Hourglass: Your curvy so show it off! A suit that has support and coverage will help keep you looking your best. Look for a balanced look overall in both cut and color to highlight your already balanced shape. A tankini can hide a little extra around the middle while keeping you looking chic.

Rectangle: Your long, lean frame is in great shape. To enhance it, add the illusion of a few curves with color, seaming and shaping. Texture and print can work for you to visually whittle out a waist and keep you looking sleek and chic.

Oval: You carry most of your weight in your tummy/bustline area so look for a suit that has full coverage and extra support. A one-piece will give you a slimming look, and when you opt for a suit with built-in shapewear it can be even more flattering. Keep your colors medium to dark and your look monochromatic.

Upper Body Dominant: Your upper body is larger than your lower body, whether you have wide shoulders or a prominent bustline. Create a minimizing and balancing effect with a tank style suit, whether one-piece or two-piece. A suit with extra support up top will be the best choice to keep you feeling secure.

Once you understand what style to wear for your body type, then you can think about color. Opt for one of your best brights such as turquoise or purple in place of black, which can be harsh if you have pale skin. If your skin is darker, try an espresso brown or a gorgeous teal to make your skintone look radiant!

So whether you're poolside, oceanside, or just in your own backyard, you can feel great in your new swimsuit, knowing you have the right cut for you!

Want to learn how to create your own summer style? Email Michele at michele@onechicmama.com to discover how!

In the Tank!

2011-06-20T11:09:00.003-05:00

Summer is officially here tomorrow and the piece of clothing that best represents summer to me, aside from a pretty sundress, is a great tank. Chic, versatile and a great way to keep your cool, tanks offer a multitude of ways to wear them. But the best part is that you can snatch up a a handful in your favorite shades for just a few bucks, adding to your style quotient while keeping your pocketbook happy.

Wearing a tank is a fun and simple way to get dressed this summer, but something I feel I must point out is that it is never in good taste to let your bra straps show. I see this far too often and it simply takes away from your look. If you need to wear a bra then opt for a tank with wider, fuller straps that keep your skivvies under wraps.

Also, this brings me to another important point. Size matters when it comes to choosing the best tank for you. Tanks can be extra skimpy or offer full coverage, so choose the style that gives you what you need. If you wear too little, or too much, of a tank it will be unflattering to you and will do nothing to enhance your image. Conversely, if you select a tank that is in proportion to you (i.e. strap size should complement your overall size) and it gives you the coverage you need, you will look nothing short of fabulous!

One more tip I'd like to share is that wearing a tank can actually be more flattering than wearing a short sleeved shirt if you're busty. It seems counterintuitive, but try it and see for yourself. When short sleeves hit you parallel to your bustline, they visually make it appear larger (and your arms, too). The good news is that a tank can create a slimmer illusion. You can thank me later:)

Here are some of my favorite ways to wear a summer tank top:

1/ Pair them up: Wear not one but two of your favorite tanks to create a layered look. Mix bold, tropical hues together for a festive look, or layer up different shades of pale neutrals for a more understated mix. Let the bottom layer peek out at the hemline for fun, and layer straps for best effect. Try a thin, stretchy nylon tank as an underlayer to give you a sleek and chic look.

2/Layer it on: A tank can be a fun layer beneath a skimpy sundress and enough to give you the coverage you need. If you're full-busted and you must wear a bra with a plunging maxi-dress or strappy sundress, try layering a tank underneath to keep everything under wraps.

3/ Office chic: Layer a tank under your favorite jacket or cardigan in place of a blouse to keep your cool. Try a jacket with 3/4 sleeves to further your cool factor.

4/ To create balance: If you're upper body dominant, a simple tank can help you to create balance on top when paired with a full skirt on bottom. Try one of the seasons full maxi skirts to stay on trend.

5/ A shot of color: You don't think I could leave this out, do you? I love a tank for the simple fact that gives you the chance to add a bold hue to your look, bring color around your face and add in a little something special in such a simple way.

So grab a few tanks to get you through the summer and you'll love how they can help you keep your cool. Plus, they make packing a breeze!

Insider's tip: Want to stock up on a few tanks in stripes, bolds or neutrals? Then plan to hit your local Old Navy store this Saturday, June 25th. All tanks will be just $2 and up, giving you a great opportunity to boost your summer style EQ for less than a five spot!

Five Minute Makeover: New Ways to Wear a Sweater Wrap

2011-06-17T07:10:00.001-05:00

Shop the (pre) Summer Sales

2011-06-17T06:20:00.003-05:00

Summer is just about here and it's a great time to bring in a few key items to your wardrobe to help take you through summer outings, vacations and get-togethers, not to mention staying cool while looking chic at work. Here are a few fabulous deals that you don't want to miss!

1/ Today, take 50% off a $125 purchase at Chico's. Use code 17258 when shopping online. Chico's has some gorgeous items in beautiful, tropical colors and prints to help you feel like you're on vacay even if you're just sitting at your desk.

2/ Need a chic new pair of sandals? You can get free shipping at Steve Madden with code SMFREESHIP.

3/ Stock your underwear drawer! Soma by Chico's has begun it's semi-annual sale and this is one not to be missed! I personally love Soma and some of my favorite bras came from there. Now you can save up to 70% while treating yourself to some new skivvies. After all, it doesn't matter what your clothes look like if you don't start with a great foundation!

Shhh...I'm Sharing my Best Secrets

2011-06-08T07:40:00.004-05:00

As a style expert and image consultant, it probably comes as no surprise to you that I have a few secrets up my three-quarter length sleeve when it comes to style. I have spent more than 20 years helping countless women across the country look their very best in a variety of ways - many of them from the perspective of designer, and now as a stylist. If only I knew then what I know now...heck, if I knew what I know now back when I was a teenager things would surely have been a lot different. But alas, it has taken me many years to discover some of the best secrets of style around. And now I want to share them with you!

Many people think that style is simply a matter of taste. I disagree, at least partially. First, style has to have substance and that substance begins with what I like to call the foundation. Without a good foundation, even the best style doesn't stand a chance. Your foundation is your starting point and where you begin to take baby steps to discover exactly what is right for you. What is 'right' isn't merely someone's opinion, but more a matter of science. It's discovering your basic elements and understanding how to complement them to bring out what's great about you! Without a clear understanding of your elements, you're really just guessing at what works and what doesn't.

Once you understand the basic elements (yours will be very different from your BFF's, so be forewarned) then you get to take into consideration your own personal self expression. This is my favorite part, the icing on the cake. It's what sets you apart and helps you to truly shine. Creating what I like to call your "Signature Style" is about putting all the pieces together and connecting the dots in a way that is just right. It's not necessarily predictable, but when you get it 'right' the outcome is greater than the sum of its parts. 'Right' is subjective, and by this I mean right for you. What's right for your sister, friend or neighbor will be very different from what's right for you. Understanding the subtleties that make something perfect for you, or quite the opposite, has nothing to do with anything except your elements. When you dress for who you are and what you have, it's magical!

Understanding the nuances of style can take some work. It's a process of learning that you can go as deep as you like with. But I've done the work for you. I've put together some of my best tips to help you discover how to bring out your best and play it up to the hilt!

In my new book, Secrets of Style...to help you look great everyday!, I offer you easy tips that you can do every single day. My approach is all about demystifying the whole process of style and breaking it down into bite sized tidbits that you can easily tackle in a matter of minutes. I encourage my clients to start their own style makeover a little bit at a time. It can be very overwhelming to know where to start, so I want to encourage you to start with one small thing. This book is filled with many small things that can add up to great results without feeling impossible.

I know you're going to love all the great tips that I give in this book that it will pay for itself pretty quickly. So stock up (these make great gifts!) and treat your friends and family to my best secrets of style!

PS - I would be honored and flattered as well if you would pass this along to anyone you know who might enjoy it. I want to help women all over the world see how easy it can be to look their best, each and every day. Here's to your great style!

Shorts: From Casual to City Chic

2011-06-05T12:07:00.006-05:00

Now that the temperatures are rising, it is the perfect time to start rethinking your wardrobe. Sure, on the weekends you just want to throw on a pair of shorts, cropped pants or a sundress and relax knowing you'll be cool. But come Monday, the thought of hot and heavy layers does nothing to get you motivated. I have news for you - it doesn't have to be this way!

Shorts are a great alternative to pants or a skirt and can be dressed up or down quite easily, giving you more versatility in your wardrobe. I want to show you just how simple it can be to take your shorts to new heights and help them look polished and professional.

1/ First, treat your shorts just as you would pants or a skirt. Skip the casual tee and dress your shorts up with a top that has a little more structure to it. Tuck your shirt in and add a belt for more polish.

2/ A jacket or cardigan, either short sleeved, 3/4 sleeved or long sleeved with the sleeves pushed up, is a great third layer that brings polish to your look. Add one in a lightweight fabric that takes your look to new heights while helping you keep your cool.

3/ A great pair of wedge sandals give your look lift and help elevate you to city chic. Flip flops, flats espadrilles (such as Tom's) or even flats are cute but a little more casual.

4/ Add in some chic accessories to finish your look off. You want to create balance so don't go overboard, but a belt, some great earrings and a bracelet or watch will finish your look off in style!

Five Minute Makeover: How to Make Black Work for You

2011-06-02T05:54:00.000-05:00

The Five Minute Makeover: How to Wear White

2011-06-01T07:28:00.001-05:00

Five Minute Makeover: One Small Change

2011-05-31T05:55:00.004-05:00

I am so excited to announce the beginning of a new video series here at One Chic Mama. It's affectionately referred to as 'Five Minute Makeover' and is something that has me busting at the seams. I've been wanting to share this with you for some time and finally it's here.

The premise of Five Minute Makeover is this: when it comes to your image, start with one small change. Based on the Japanese principle of kaizen, a word that Wikipedia defines as improvement or change for the better, it refers to a philosophy or practices that focus upon continuous improvement. Typically something that is found in the workplace, I am bringing the philosophy of kaizen to your closet and your personal image. The goal? To help you get out of overwhelm when it comes to your image and encourage you to start with one small change.

Too often when I talk with women who say they "need" a makeover they don't have a clue where to start. They just feel that everything is wrong about them and their confidence is what's suffering the most. I know because I've been there. But I also know that when you start with one small change it can inspire you to make continual changes that are totally do-able and add up to big results. Like when you get a great haircut and see how fabulous you look, then you want to change your makeup, then your jewelry, then your clothes...and are inspired to keep it up because you like the results you're getting. It's about enjoying the process rather and having fun with it.

My hope in launching Five Minute Makeover is that you'll see how easy it can be to make one small change. This small change can be the starting point for many changes to come. What I tell my clients is that once you've had a 'makeover' you're still not 'done'. It's a continual work in progress. You'll always need a haircut, new clothes, to refresh your style, to find your best colors, etc. and this video series is meant to educate you on the many small changes you can make that can add up to big results.

I'd love to have you leave a comment here and let me know what you think! And if you don't already, subscribe to my RSS feed and you'll be sure not to miss my Five Minute Makeover videos the second they're posted! I'll be offering up some amazing information, interviewing industry experts and even doing some givewaways (you don't want to miss this!). So stay in touch and let me know if there's a Five Minute Makeover you'd like to see!

XO,

Michele
One Chic Mama

Does Your Wardrobe Contain the 3 C's?

2011-05-29T11:20:00.001-05:00

While some of us have a very clear idea of what our ideal wardrobe and our ideal image looks like, often times we leave these to chance. Most of us grow up without learning how to build a wardrobe, how to cultivate our image and without any insight into what it takes to love what we see in the mirror. What happens is that we buy the clothes that we like, and that become familiar to us. Perhaps they are the best cut and color for us, but more times than not they could use a little "tweaking' to make them just right.

Putting together a wardrobe that brings out our best selves and pulls us into a higher version of ourselves, on the other hand, is a different matter altogether. This is what I call creating a Signature Style, and is what helps us to create an unforgettable image and stand out from the crowd. This wardrobe contains what I like to call the 3 C's:

Consistency = Credibility = Confidence

Let's talk about these for a minute and how they come into play to effect your image, both inner and outer.

1/ Consistency - By consistency I mean that you have a look that is consistent with your message, your position, your personal brand. Think Bill Gates, Oprah, Michelle Obama. They have a look that underscores who they are and what they stand for, and that is authentic to them. If they didn't, it would leave you questioning their mixed signals and would breed confusion. But this word is two-fold: it also means that your image is consistent from one day to the next. If you show up one day dressed to the nines, then the next looking like you just rolled out of bed, you would lack consistency, and would lose some of your credibility. If you're a stay-at-home mom, this is not a big deal. If you're a professional or an entrepreneur, this is critical.

2/ Credibility - Credibility is given when you have shown that you are consistent with your personal brand, are authentic and have an image that matches your message. I often see entrepreneurs and high-level business women give up their credibility for the sake of comfort, or because they don't take the time to give attention to details. Don't let things like panty lines, a bad haircut or dated clothing ruin your appearance. This will undermine not only your credibility but your confidence, as well as the confidence of those around you. Keep your appearance up, keep your wardrobe looking good and ensure it's a true reflection of you to score the most points in credibility.

3/ Confidence - Confidence comes in knowing you're pulled together. When your look is consistent with who you are, your clothing is up to date and in great shape (no falling hemlines, etc), your bumps and bulges are managed with shapewear and your hair and makeup flatter your look, you just can't help but feel confident! And when you're confident from the minute you set foot out the door (or at least out of your closet) you're unstoppable! You know you look great, but more importantly, you feel great and it shows! And when you're confident, others will have confidence in you and your abilities. You become a client magnet and others want to know who you are. When you turn heads because of your confidence, you project the image of the successful woman you truly are!

Taking time to ensure that your wardrobe is supporting you in the 3 C's will go a long way in helping you to feel great about yourself!

Driven to Distraction

2011-05-23T09:08:00.005-05:00

You've heard that clothes make the man, but of course they make the woman too. Unfortunately for us it can be so much more of a challenge to put together outfits that fit and flatter our shape, are appropriate for a particular setting and have every detail in place. Our options are wide open and much more broad then for men (they have it so easy!). As women, we love having options, but that also means there is more room for things to go awry - accessory overload, underwear mishaps, wardrobe malfunctions and more!

Take a particular meeting I attended for instance. I was sitting at a board meeting, listening attentively, when all of a sudden I look at the woman seated across from me and notice that her watch doesn't match her ring. or her bracelet. or her necklace. or her earrings. or her....it got the best of me and I can't remember for the life of me what was said the rest of the meeting.

The bad news is that falling prey to a wardrobe distraction can lead to family, friends or clients staring at your visual distraction and not hearing a word you say - they'll be too busy wondering what's wrong with your outfit, or guessing how you ended up in such a state. The good news is that preventing wardrobe distraction disasters from happening is easier than you think. Here are my top 5 wardrobe distractions and how to prevent them from happening:

1/ Accessory Overload - Ladies, let me just tell you right now - your jewelry must relate in some way, shape or form. Piling on accessories just for the sake of filling up blank space is not going to do you any favors. In fact, it can work against you, leaving all you meet to wonder what your theme is. You want to group your jewelry with a theme in mind. That theme could be gold, snakeskin, red, chain, leather, etc. but choosing accessories that relate to this theme will create a congruent look. When you adorn yourself, do it with intention, rather than just randomly, and you'll be sure to create a perfect balance.

2/ Underwear Mishaps - One of my least favorite things to see is when bad underwear happens to good people. This can be more challenging in warmer weather, but worth paying attention to. Really, we don't want to know that you chose to wear a pink thong under your white pants, a sexy bra (or no bra) under your sundress or that your boy shorts are leopard print. All we need to see is underwear that disappears into your outfit and leaves a smooth, sleek line. If you opt to go without, do so in a way that's not obvious. So choose your undies wisely. Opt for skin-toned lingerie under light colored fabrics, go for shapewear when wearing something clingy or form fitting, and never, ever let your thong show when you bend over.

3/ Too Much T & A - Yes, believe it or not, both men and women are distracted by a blouse that's too low-cut, an odd-shaped neckline that looks like it should reveal more than it does, or a booty that takes center stage. If you're well-endowed in either area, dress accordingly - that means wear clothing cut generously enough to cover you without looking matronly. Low cut tops or blouses will have people talking to your chest rather than your face, and leave them not hearing a word you say. Also, when your clothes are tight and busting at the seams, guess where all eyes will be! Here is a great example of the dialogue that goes through our heads when we see this distraction in action, especially on TV!

4/ Rearview Meltdown - You've put together a great outfit that you're pleased with and are ready to head out the door. But wait! Did you check out your rear view? This can be just as important as the view front and center. I recently witnessed this and it wasn't pretty. A lovely woman in a great outfit, yet as soon as she turned around it was all blown by things that could have been avoided - her sweater and top left a gaping hole between where they met, she had bra bulges and VPL, her shorts were too tight in the rear and her shoes were scuffed on the backs of the heels. Her credibility just went right down the drain as it showed me her attention to detail was greatly lacking. Check that rear view, ladies! It's more important than you may think!

5/ The Matching Game - Like accessories, your clothing should relate. People want to see harmony, not discord, so when the harmony is not obvious we spend our time trying to make the connection. Wearing clothing that doesn't go together because of color, style or fit can leave people wondering how that outfit came about rather than remembering your name or what you do.

When getting dressed you want to aim to wear clothing that fits and flatters you, leaving you to shine for all to see. Don't let the little distractions cost you attention from friends and family, business from potential clients, or leave you walking away from speaking with an audience that wasn't really listening. When your outfit works for you and is crafted to show off your assets and disguise your flaw, it makes you memorable for all the right reasons.

Editor's Note: Photo courtesy of Margaret Andrews at Nanny Goats in Panties.

How is Your Signature Style Like Making Your Favorite Recipe?

2011-05-22T07:10:00.007-05:00

Last night I went to a most amazing birthday party for a friend thrown by her husband to help ring in her 40th. When I asked if I could bring anything, he politely declined, but did mention that if I wanted to bring those spicy nuts that I made for Christmas a few years back, he would appreciate that. Wow, he has a good memory!

A few years ago I discovered a recipe for what's officially called "Sweet and Salty Toasted Pecans" in a book, Food for Friends, by Sally Vargas. I quickly took to making this recipe, and renaming them "Spicy Pecans", every chance I got. It became second nature, and as I got comfortable with the measurements, I took a few liberties to put my own spin on them. And people remembered.

Last night while we were sharing my Spicy Pecans, I mentioned how easy they were to make. One friend commented that she had tried the recipe that I shared with her years ago but they never tasted as good as mine. While I really don't do anything that's all that special to make them unique, the differences add up to a big result that is very memorable, yet not easy to exactly duplicate. Kind of like creating your Signature Style!

Have you ever tried to replicate a fabulous outfit that you saw in a magazine or on a friend, only to have it fall flat? It can be mind-boggling to discover that you've worked so hard to find just the right elements, then have the effect be something less than flattering. What you forgot to add were the essential elements that make an outfit work for you, and put your very own spin on it!

Creating a great outfit is a lot like following a recipe. Once you get the basics down, such as core elements that are the foundation of the look, then you need to take a few liberties to make it your own. If your body is shaped differently from the model's in the magazine, then you want to opt for something that is going to enhance your curves. If your coloring is completely opposite and your stature is not the same, then take these into account to create the most flattering look for you. Your best look will not only flatter your personal considerations, but will bring out the best in your personality and become your Signature Style! As your style becomes second nature to you, it also becomes more you! It's something you could do with your eyes closed and your result is always consistent.

In short, take what works for you. If you like color, add more color. If you need more coverage, by all means find something that has it. Feel your way to your own style and trust your intuition. It will never lead you astray. Don't allow yourself to be dictated to, but rather let a fashion recipe be the starting point for creating a look that's all your own, and helps you to become memorable for all the right reasons.

The Five Minute Face

2011-05-19T08:17:00.003-05:00

We all know what it's like to be pressed for time. On those days when you're trying to get out the door in a flash, you need makeup that works with you (even if time won't). When you want a bit of natural-looking polish, yet don't have time for a full makeup application, it can be tempting just to skip the makeup altogether. But don't! Just taking a few minutes to do the bare-bones essentials is all it takes to keep you from looking like you just rolled out of bed while boosting your confidence. Bonus: you can do these on the go if you must!

Try these quick steps for a five-minute (or less) face:

1. Stick Foundation or Tinted Moisturizer - This is easy to apply and blend (even if you have one one free hand).

3. Cream Blush - Again, easy to blend. Try Orgasm from NARS for a fabulous shade!

4. Tinted Lip Balm- This does double-duty; it moisturizes and gives you some color.

5. Mascara - If you have time. It's like icing on the cake and will give you the finishing touch.

So next time you wake up and want to get out the door pronto, try this quick routine. Or, better yet, keep a bag of your favorite cosmetics stashed in your purse or car and do your face in the car (not while driving, mind you). You'll feel elegant and polished without sacrificing your style!

Are You Beautiful?

2011-05-16T08:49:00.003-05:00

Do you know you're beautiful? No? Well let me tell you right now that you are! Can I help you see it too?

Too often I hear my clients, friends and women in general talk negatively about themselves, saying things such as "My hips are too big", "I need to lose about 20 pounds" or "My clothes are horrible." Not very uplifting, is it? Yet that's the kind of self-talk that many of us have running through our minds as we compare ourselves to the unrealistic expectations that have been created for us by the fashion and beauty world. And when we compare ourselves to the celebrities, models and imagery that we are bombarded with, it's only natural that we think of them as the 'ideal' of beauty. Do we need to run out and have liposuction, a breast enhancement and Botox? No, what we need is a re-frame!

Now let's talk about the ideal of beauty. You were born beautiful and you grew up beautiful. Whether you felt it or not is another story. But when we can step away from our self-talk and our unrealistic expectations that do nothing but set us up for failure, we can begin to see our beauty unfold in an amazing way! Follow these steps and you'll begin to see yourself in a whole new light:

1/ Quit comparing yourself to celebrities and even your friends! I know, celebrity style is everywhere and every magazine thinks we want to look just like them. Well guess what! We don't, and we couldn't even if we tried. Holding ourself against such unrealistic expectations (heck, even the celebs don't look like the pictures in the mags. Photoshop works wonders on a few extra pounds) can erode our self-esteem and undermine our confidence. And it's just plain silly, so stop it right now!

2/ Take a good long look in the mirror and take note of what you see. If any negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with a positive one of gratitude. If you start to think, "I wish my hair were long and luxurious just like Jennifer Aniston's", give yourself a re-frame: "I am grateful for my fabulous short hair that enhances my face and makes styling quick and easy." Does Jennifer Aniston have gorgeous hair? You bet, but yours is pretty darn fabulous too! And if you're not happy with your current style perhaps it's time to try something new.

3/ Notice what's great about you and play it up! Do you have the most beautiful blue eyes? Then wear a blue shirt that makes them pop! How about a great complexion or gorgeous long legs? Try a beautiful new shade of lipstick or wearing a short skirt. Take note of what's good about you and put your attention on that. When you play up the positive and focus on what you love about yourself, the rest just fades into the background.

4/ Dress for the body you have right now. Wear clothing that fits your body, shows your shape and helps you to create balance. Are you a size 16? Great, then get yourself an outfit that flatters you to the hilt and strut your stuff! Are you a size 6? Then I'll give you the same advice. Hint: No matter what size you are, don't hide behind big, baggy clothes. They'll just make you look bigger and will give you a frumpy look that's not flattering on anyone.

5/ Wear clothing that makes you feel incredible! I mean it. When you get dressed and put on an outfit you LOVE that really expresses who you are, it's magical! You just feel more like you - but the best part is how it can boost your confidence! When you look in the mirror and see a chic, pulled-together woman you can help but say "YES!" to yourself. And when you say yes to yourself, the world says yes to you!

Looking great and feeling beautiful are about so much more than just the clothes you wear. I want to see you not only look fabulous on the outside, but on the inside too. Because when you feel fabulous and look fabulous it impacts everyone around you! You radiate confidence and the world is a different place. So, are you ready to see how beautiful you really are?

Coupon Chic

2011-05-12T06:00:00.000-05:00

It can be easy to save big – even if your favorite store isn’t on clearance yet! Style consultant Chrissy Volk shares her favorite tips (used with her clients!) to shop Diane von Furstenberg sans credit card debt. You can now enjoy your favorite pieces, before they are out of season!

First things first...

SAVE A BUNDLE IN THE TIME IT TAKES YOU TO TURN ON YOUR SMART PHONE:

GET APP-Y: The CouponClipper and Deals apps shows you deals that are going on around you - load it up post-mall arrival! Clipper Magazine

NO CLIPPING REQUIRED: Did know that you can bring your smart phone and your cashier can scan the barcode for the promotion/coupon right from your phone. Try the Coupon Sherpa app which lists over 120 retailers -- you just click, scan and save! Download your favorite store's app as well - many times they offer scanable coupons direct from their platform!

CLIP... ERRR CLICK AND COMPARE!: Download any number of price comparison apps – Chrissy likes Shop Savvy Barcode Scanner and TheFind, which scans the item’s SKU number and price compares with other retailers, so you can find the best deal.

BE SOCIAL: “Like” your favorite stores on Facebook – the same goes for Twitter followers as well. GAP and Macy's among others, may offer special sales for those that are loyal fans.
PRINT AND GO: Like the feel of a 30% off coupon between your fingers? There are websites that allow you print coupons and use them for in-store savings. For example, couponcabin.com will allow you print current coupons for Target, Payless, the Limited, etc. FlamingoWorld.com is similar and features relevant coupons that are being offered at specific retailers.

UN-TECHY TIPS THAT WORK:

DON'T SAY NO TO OFFERING HOME ADDRESS: Next time you’re in the store - don’t say no to offering your email and home address. Many retailers still send out coupons in the mail. Some stores even send 20% off coupons on a weekly basis, i.e. Lord and Taylor.

GETTING A COUPON TODAY? TABLE THAT BIG PURCHASE FOR A WEEK: A common practice for retailers is handing out coupons valid for a future date. After a purchase is made, the sales person will hand out coupons that can be used towards a future purchase. These are great to keep handy if you plan on shopping at the same store in the near future, as the discounts are normally pretty significant. Why not ask if they are offering a coupon with a certain purchase price – might make sense to make a smaller purchase today and return to buy that dress or suit a week from now!

PREPARE TO SAVE: Always have coupons handy and readily available. Chrissy recommends a fun pouch, envelope or a printed mesh/organza bag to stay organized and keep your coupons readily available or...

COUPON ORGANIZING 2.0: Download the MyCoupons app for a free way to organize your deals - you also get alerts when you're creeping up on expiration date!

Editor's Note: Adahlia Volk is the brainchild of Chrissy Volk. Chrissy brings years of fashion knowledge and a love of making people feel good to Adahlia Volk, Style and Image Consultancy (http://adahliavolk.com/). Chrissy is highly experienced and has years of experience within the fashion industry.

Our Mothers, Ourselves

2011-05-08T07:59:00.003-05:00

Have you ever noticed how the way your mother lived her life has affected how you live yours? Did your mother fuss over her appearance, taking time to put together just the right outfit before leaving the house, or did she just throw on whatever she could find without worrying whether or not it was flattering? Was your mother stressed out with little time for you, or was she organized and relaxed? Did you hope to be just like her when you grew up? Well, guess what! Now it’s your turn to be the role model!

As women of the new millennium, so many things have changed since our mothers were raising us. In many ways we have things a whole lot easier. We have dishwashers, convenience foods, online shopping and access to style tips and trends at the click of a mouse. Many of us also have husbands who are willing to do their fair share around the house (much more so than half a century ago, at least), as well as support us in our quest to lead a balanced, fulfilled life. But at the same time, we have more demands on our time; racing our kids to ballet, soccer, and t-ball, while still having a healthy dinner on the table, keeping the house clean, running our own businesses… This leaves little time for exercise, staying in touch with friends, finding meaningful gifts for those we care about, and being able to find a sense of balance in our lives. It’s so easy to get caught up in the “crazy” whirlwind of life’s demands and the “doing” that we often forget the “being” aspect that keeps us centered, grounded and in touch with ourselves those around us. If we remember that crazy vs. calm is a choice we make, and that we have some control over how we perceive our lives, we can choose to live at a pace that is comfortable, not chaotic, for us. This will reflect positively on our families, our friends and on our lives. And this can go a long way to setting a good example for our children. We don’t want them going through their days feeling stressed, chaotic and disorganized, do we?

Mothers are role models, like it or not, and the more positive signals we can send to our children, the better. The more we take care of ourselves, the more our families will feel taken care of as well. And when we look good and feel good, life is just better all the way around!

Wishing you a very Happy Mother's Day!

Editor's Note: This is a repost of the very first blog post I did on Mother's Day, 2006. I hope you enjoy!

Refresh Your Look!

2011-05-02T14:34:00.002-05:00

It's May already, can you believe it? Mother's Day is coming up this next weekend and I have a special treat just for you! Now I've been hearing from a lot of moms lately (of all ages) that you're ready to polish your look but budget is a concern, or you just don't feel that you have the time to spend on yourself. I want to let you know that I hear you and created something special just for you! With summer right around the corner I wanted to put something together that will help you look and feel your best, just in time to beat the heat!

Wouldn’t you just love to know:

How to look FABULOUS for work and leisure this summer?
What SWIMSUIT is the best for your body type?
What COLORS will instantly make you look fabulous, and which ones make you look washed out? (this may surprise you!)
How to look SLIMMER while still keeping your cool?
What you should NEVER wear in summer?
How to UPDATE your style without breaking the bank?
How to dress for TRAVEL while looking chic and packing less?

See how working with your very own personal stylist can help you boost your image and take your look to the next level, and at a fraction of what it normally costs to work with me. I designed this Summer of Style Express makeover just for you because I know that you’re busy but it’s important to you to look great. Here's what I have in store for you. My Summer of Style Express Makeover includes: (If you're ready, sign up here: http://tinyurl.com/6cvlp4n)

A personal Color Analysis with a personal color palette featuring your 40 best colors
A mini Image Analysis, including your body type and face shape
A Wardrobe Update that will help to understand what to wear this summer for your body type, age, lifestyle
A Personal Scale Assessment, helping you to understand what your scale is and how how to wear it
A Style File to keep track of all your information and to give you inspiration

Note: this package can be in-studio or also virtual, so if you're not in the NC-area you can still take advantage of this deal!

Sign up here: http://tinyurl.com/6cvlp4n

Now all this is comes to a more than $847 value, but because it matters to me that women look and feel great (it's part of my life purpose to empower women to love themselves and get how beautiful they truly are) I am offering this special to you today for just $397 (a fraction of what my packages cost!). But here's the catch: I only have 20 spots available, and when they're gone, so is this deal. So don't delay!

**Bonus: The first 5 women who book their session will receive a 30 minute style coaching call with me to use when you need it most (a big event, a wardrobe malfunction...)

This makes a great Mother's Day package, so forward this email to your loved ones and tell them this is what you want. Plus, I can create a gift certificate to send to someone special. Just say the word!

I look forward to working with you!

Warmly,
Michele

PS - Please feel free to share this with your friends, clients, family members and anyone else you think would benefit from it. Boosting your image is a gift that creates confidence and can last a lifetime!

Get a Makeover on the Inside First

2011-04-20T04:57:00.004-05:00

Have you ever looked in the mirror and wished for a complete and total makeover? I sure have! When the woman staring back at you is no longer recognizable and you really don't like the image your showing the world. It's almost as if they can see how you're really feeling on the inside, which is tired, run-down and frumpy. Uh-oh!

Feeling frumpy and disconnected from yourself are results that most women relate to on the outside. When you don't like what you see your first thought is probably to go shopping, get a new haircut or call a style expert like myself. But wait! Before you pick up the phone to make your first appointment there's something you should know: what you first need to makeover isn't your appearance, but really your mindset.

Say what? You may be wondering what in the world your mindset and your outer image have in common, but believe me, they are joined at the hip. If you're not liking what you see in the mirror, the work you should be starting with isn't a makeover in a traditional sense, but a makeover of your spirit. When you can makeover your mindset and your attitude the results will be much more meaningful, and when you do get that gorgeous new look it will feel much more right for you.

If making over your mindset sounds like too much work, and far less fun than being primped and preened by a team of professionals, hear me out. Getting a makeover on the inside is about personal growth, which leaves you with results that are much longer lasting than a physical makeover, and can have profound changes that affect every aspect of your life. Some things to consider next time you utter the words "I need a makeover":

1/ What's your motivation for wanting a new look? Perhaps you've been last on your list lately and it's time for a little self-care in the form of pampering. If this is the case, chances are your self-worth could use a boost. Carve out time each week for a special treatment, or simple just time to relax with a friend or a good cup of tea. When you make time to do those things that help you recharge, you send the message that you are important and can help you to have more to give back to others.

2/ What's Being Comfortable Costing You? If you sacrifice comfort for the sake of style, let me be the first to tell you that it doesn't have to be this way. But if you're staying comfortable in your life because you're afraid of change, ask yourself what it's costing you. If you're hiding out and playing small, chances are it's costing you some self-esteem and is leaving you feeling less than you're capable of, not to mention missing the financial and other opportunities that await you.

3/ Are You Letting Fear Hold You Back? You know what fear is, don't you? False evidence appearing real. You could be afraid of what others think of you, afraid you'll fail if you really try or afraid of the unknown. I'm going to tell you what I tell my daughter - feel the fear, and do it anyway. Once you're on the other side, the feeling is one of the biggest confidence boosters you can get!

Recently I heard a speaker talk about the differences between taking baby steps and playing small, and about the world of difference there is between the two. Taking baby steps each day to move you closer to your goal will get you there just fine. However, playing small doesn't serve you or those around you, and will only hold you back from your goals of looking and feeling fabulous! Making a little progress each day towards your goal of feeling great and looking great can result in a new look, but more importantly, and new mindset. So do what it takes to make you feel great and move you in the right direction because as my mentor says, 'without change comes stagnation'.

Skip (the black) and Go Nude!

2011-04-06T16:44:00.000-05:00

Ok, ladies, let's talk. We all have our closets full of black shoes but this spring I'd like to ask you to set them aside for a few months. Black is such a harsh color and, although it theoretically does go with everything, what it really doesn't flatter quite so much is YOU! Black sandals, pumps or flats can look really harsh against pale bare skin and create a contrast that, especially for those of you with fair skin, hair and eyes, can be overpowering and downright ugly. Now if you're dark skinned they're going to look a little better, but I really want to encourage you to break out of the box so I'm here to offer an alternative - the nude shoe.

While wearing a nude colored shoe may not seem like an earth-shattering revalation, you may not yet realize just how fabulous they can be! First, when you wear a shoe that's close to the color of your very own skin, it can elongate your legs and make you look taller. Really, ladies, this is a very simple trick. But the best part is that they will go with literally everything in your closet! My favorite pair of nude shoes is a fabulous pair of platforms with gold studs and I am hard pressed to find an outfit they don't make more chic. Who doesn't need more items like that in their closet? Here are my best tips for wearing nude shoes and looking your best:

1/ Keep the shade close to your natural skintone for best effect, whether light or dark. If your skintone is cool, opt for a cool shade. If you're more warm, go for a warmer tone. Opting for a shade or two darker can give the same effect, so if you're on the pale side, go for something that's just slightly darker to ground the look.

2/ To continue the elongating effect of nude shoes, wear a shoe with a wedge or heel. Sure, flats and flat sandals will give a similar effect but if you want to kick that effect up a notch, a couple extra inches does make a difference.

3/ For a contemporary effect opt for a nude metallic or patent leather shoe, or a shoe with these as accents. It will give your look a boost and take it to the next level.

4/ Play peekaboo. It's fun to show some skin and have your nude shoes be open-weave sandals, have cut outs or be open-toe for a sexy look.

5/ Your nude shoes can complete an entire nude look, or be the balancing point to a bright and colorful top or dress.

Whether dressed up or dressed down, nude shoes have a definite place in your wardrobe and, if you're willing to let them, will become your new go-to shoes. You'll soon wonder what you did without them!

5 Easy Steps to Upscale Casual

2011-04-06T14:28:00.002-05:00

One issue I see so many clients dealing with is bridging the gap between looking professional and looking casual. Often, after coming home from work (looking polished and pulled together) they slip into sloppy sweat pants and a nondescript tee shirt that is devoid of shape. Basically, they go from all to nothing in the blink of an eye, when it comes to style, and don't even look like the same person. Just hope no one drops by to say hello!

While I am a big believer in having your favorite comfy clothes to lounge around the house when you know you won't be seen by anyone, I'd like to encourage you to build a wardrobe that has plenty of casual options that you'll feel great about being seen in! Think it can't be done? Think again! I want to show you just how easily you can have a wardrobe that goes from dressy to casual without missing a beat.

First, let's redefine casual. I like to think of casual clothes as jeans and a t-shirt, perhaps a pair of sneakers and little else. Casual to me is what you wear around the house or to work in the yard. I realize that it's my nature to be a little overdressed (when I as little, I wore my smocked dresses and Mary Janes to play in the dirt!), but what I've found is that when women are dressed casually for an event, they typically feel underdressed, and not quite as confident as they'd like to feel. So let's talk about one of my favorite forms of dress, which is what I refer to as Upscale Casual.

Now upscale casual is a great form of dress for women that can be appropriate for both the workplace and the weekends, and leave you feeling as if you can get more done during the day because you don't have to stop and change your whole look. The beauty of upscale casual is there are a few small, but very important, details that make this look what it is. Read: it's simple! However, like any great wardrobe, it just takes a little planning. Let me take you through the process and you'll see what I mean!

1/ First, start with a great pair of jeans. Now if you're not a jeans gal, by all means find a pair of pants that feel great, fit you to a tee and are versatile. However, for this example, I'm going to talk about jeans. Forget that faded pair of 'mom' jeans you've had for a few years. You want your jeans to look fresh and modern. This is key because the wrong kind of jeans (light wash, high waisted, pleated, or holey) will ruin in the look. So let's start with my favorites, trouser jeans. I think all women over the age of 40 should have a pair of trouser jeans. They're cut like khaki's, or trousers, and have a look that's more chic than the five pocket style. You want them to be a dark wash for a more contemporary look, and to fit you like a glove. Not too tight, but not too loose. These go from day to night, from work to weekend, with just a few changes. Take note.

2/ Next you want to choose the right top. Start with a solid knit top in one of your best colors. Skip the beefy-tee's and opt for something more feminine that shows your shape. If you're feeling bold and want to wear a print or texture, you'll get a bit more of a boost. Simple works just as well here. That's the beauty of this look! Try a solid tee from Target, one with a sheen from Michael Stars or your favorite top that puts your own touch on it.

3/ Now it's time for my favorite item, the third layer. You want to choose a third layer that is going to be right for what you're doing. Wear a blazer or fitted, belted cardigan if you're heading to the office or a meeting. Opt for a more casual jacket if you'll be running errands, or just skip it altogether. A sweater vest can also work well here. The third layer is what takes this look to the next level and creates a look that is greater than the sum of its parts. It's magical!

4/ Accessories are last, but definitely not least! If you're puttering around the house, all you need are a cute pair of athletically inspired flats (skip the big sneakers). If you're heading to the office or out for dinner try adding in a fab pair of earrings, a chic belt, a par of heels and a great scarf that enhances your eye color. This dresses up your look and takes it to a completely new level! The accessories really are the icing on the cake. Change them out and you can transform the look from simple to more dressy.

5/ Makeup and hair are what you should always have in place if you're heading to work, but even on the weekends you want to opt for a casually elegant style that helps you feel great while still looking like you didn't do a thing! Master the art of the chic ponytail or the wash and go style for weekend chic. Keep your makeup simple and just do the basics--lips, mascara and brows--and you'll look polished without looking like you tried too hard.

While the beauty of the upscale casual look lies in its simplicity, feel free to put your own spin on it! If you want to elaborately layer a couple of tops and a funky jacket that's just your style, go for it! Add in a great pair of heels or if flats are more your style, find a chic yet comfortable pair that make you feel great! This look is open to interpretation, so find the strategy that makes you feel fabulous while helping you to get dressed with ease!

Want help to create a wardrobe strategy of your own? E-mail me at Michele@OneChicMama.com to discover how I can help you to get dressed with ease!

Banish Back Fat and Win

2011-04-04T14:18:00.006-05:00

As women age, one thing that seems to happen is that we have more loose skin around our braline. Between gaining or losing weight, having kids and fluctuating hormones, it just seems to appear. Yet as natural as it may be, bumps and bulges around the braline can be pretty unsightly - especially under clingy knits.

One of the best tricks I've found recently for creating a smooth line is the Unbelievabra. The right undergarments make all the difference in finishing off your look, and the Unbelievabra is sure to help you to have a smooth foundation. Priced from $75 to $95, it comes in three lengths: the Ultimate, the Mini and the Shortee. The Ultimate is a one-piece cami with a molded-cup bra and built in tummy-control that gives you a sleek appearance under tops and dresses. The first time I wore mine out I was hooked! I wore it under a very clingy knit dress with shapewear on the bottom. Although I exercise and eat right, I've got a few pounds to spare on my frame - but with these garments, I looked flawless! And felt super comfy, too! The Mini is great if you've got a flat tummy but have some extra skin around the bra line, and the Shortee is a nice alternative to a regular bra or a sportsbra.

For a smoother look, give the Unbelievabra a try. With a silhouette this smooth and sleek, you'll look ten pound thinner!

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Do You Give Your Power Away? I Did!

2011-04-01T10:06:00.001-05:00

There is a great quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that I love, "No one ca n make you feel inferior without your consent." Her perspective is so true, yet all too often I see women who put themselves into the role of victim and they give their power away. They don't do it so overtly, but very often it begins with their appearance. Maybe they've gained a few pounds and don't like the way their body looks, so they grab any old thing that fits and settle for the dirty tee shirt they wore yesterday. If they must go out, they hide behind a big, boxy jacket and slip on the most comfy shoes they can find. Makeup is non-existent and their hair, most likely, hasn't been cut in 6 months or more and their roots are beyond showing. Sound familiar?

Now don't get me wrong - I am not here to judge anyone. I am here to support women and to help them step into their power by expressing their authentic selves. So few things drive me more crazy than seeing a beautiful woman 'hiding out' and playing small. Why is this so? Well, because this used to be me. There was a time when I had absolutely zero confidence in who I was as a person, and thought I had nothing to offer. I had a good childhood, so there wasn't anything traumatic behind this. But I grew up being overweight in elementary school and through high school, and the effects this had on my self-esteem have been lifelong. It wasn't until I was in college that I got a handle on my weight issues, but my low self-esteem that I left me dressing in a way that totally hid my body, my emotions and my true self. And because of having such low self esteem, I totally gave my power away. To friends, to boyfriends, to stylish women whom I admired. It's been a journey for me to reclaim my power and to feel great in my own skin. I guess this is why I am so passionate about what I do because I know that it's not just about how you look on the outside, but that in many cases, that's where transformation can begin.

So when you look in the mirror how do you feel? Frumpy, fat and fatigued? How would it make you feel to look in the mirror and give yourself a high five for looking so great? It would affect your entire day and make an impact on everyone you come in contact with! You may be feeling overwhelmed and wonder where you even begin...

Reclaiming your power doesn't have to take lots of hard work. Often it starts with a commitment to yourself that you will value YOU and not put everyone else first. Taking steps to look your best will get you off on the right foot and help you to feel great, no matter what your size or shape. Here are my 5 top tips for stepping into your power through your personal image:

1/ Wear clothing that truly fits your body. If you've gained weight, it can be depressing to squeeze into something that's too tight, but hiding behind a tent can make you look even bigger. Clothing that skims the body and shows your shape can be more flattering and helps keep you from getting 'lost' or looking sleazy.

2/ Get a great haircut - color too! This makes a huge impact on your appearance and is something you'll enjoy every single day. Make sure you discuss your lifestyle, face shape and coloring with your stylist to be assured you'll get the perfect look. After all, if you're a busy woman you want to look great but don't have all morning to spend on your hair.

3/ Wear clothing that you LOVE! Wearing something that is a 'should' or that you just happen to have in your closet does nothing to inspire you. However when you put on a jacket that is so very YOU, you just can't help but feel good in it!

4/ Reconnect with your Current Style - If you're still dressing like you were in college, that's likely to bring you down (however, if you can still fit in the clothes that's awesome). Reevaluate who you are, what you like and what your lifestyle is. If you've made a change in recent years, ensure you're dressing to suit that and not stuck in a rut from decades ago.

5/ The Devil's in the Details - A little makeup goes a long way. Bring some color into your face with a pretty lipstick or gloss, brighten your eyes with pretty shadow and make them pop with mascara. It'll make you smile! Add in some accessories that you just love and it will personalize your look while adding interest.

6/ Dress for the Body You Have Right Now - If you've had kids, lost weight or gained weight (be honest, nobody minds) then dress to enhance your assets and downplay your flaws. When you do you'll look like a million bucks and feel great to boot! If you don't know what your assets are try asking a trusted friend to point out what's great about you!

Now that you know how to get dressed, it's time for a little inner reflection. I want you to look at your self image and ask who you compare yourself to? Who do you give your power away and why? When did that start, and what belief about yourself did you form? If you grew up feeling like you were never pretty enough, take a look at yourself now and feel grateful for all your gorgeous assets! If you felt like you weren't good enough, try feeling thankful for all your gifts and the ability to help others. It will help you to shift your perspective and to see that you are beautiful, you are valued and you are LOVED!

Marianne Williamson wrote, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." Her beautiful words have inspired me to feel great about who I am and to know that I can make a difference in women's lives. I'd like to encourage you to embrace your power, however it might look and feel how beautiful you truly are!

What Do You Want Most?

2011-03-26T12:24:00.006-05:00

As a style and self image expert it is my job to find solutions to your problems when it comes to getting dressed. While I hear a lot of similar problems over and over from my clients, I sometimes like to ask a different question to provoke differet responses. This helps me to have a fresh approach and offer new solutions to problems you've been struggling with for years.

So in that vain, I'd like to ask you to take a few minutes to complete my survey. Whether you're a client of mine, or have never worked with me, your answers are important. Plus, I'm giving away a $50 gift certificate to Sephora to one lucky winner, just for sharing your information! Once you complete the survey, your name will be entered into a drawing for a chance to win. One entry per person, please! Click here to take survey. Then come back and leave a comment letting me know you did so we can get you registered!

Feel free to share this link and spread the word. And if there's anything else you'd like to add, feel free to leave a comment here. Thank you in advance! The deadline to complete this is Friday, April 1, 2011. Click here to take survey

The Glamour of Pale Neutrals

2011-03-25T11:57:00.003-05:00

One of the hottest trends this spring also happens to be one of the most wearable, which is great news for women of all ages. Pale Neutrals offer a soft, muted palette that includes white, putty, khaki, mocha and pale peach. Wearing pale neutrals creates the look of easy elegance and helps make getting dressed a breeze. These colors are often associated with a romantic, vintage-inspired look but this season they can just easily conjure up a classic style that is crisp and sharp. The key is the fabric, the fit and the details. Here are a few guidelines to help you wear pale neutrals to best flatter you:

1/ The Key is in the Color - Wearing pale neutrals can create a very sleek look, but I want you to be careful about the colors you choose. Wearing colors that are flattering to your personal skintone, including your skin enhancer, will ensure that this look helps your skin to look luminous without washing you out. If your personal coloring is dark, you may look better combining lights with darks (think mocha rather than black) or a variety of medium tones. Find the shades that work best on you.

2/ Start with Structure - To best flatter your shape, start with a core item that has some structure to it; a pair of pants, a skirt or a dress that fit you well will get the look off to a great start.

3/ Add Interest - To avoid creating a look that is blah and boring, add in elements of interest such as a top or jacket with some embellishment, pleating, embroidery, stand-out buttons, etc. The neutral backdrop will allow these elements to shine. Layering various shades of cream, or combining a pale pink or mint green with white, khaki, silver or ivory is a wonderful way to give your look a fresh, contemporary spin.

4/ It's a Shoe-In - When choosing shoes to complement your pale neutral look, don't ruin it by just wearing black shoes. Opt for shoes in a pale neutral or a brown tone to keep it monochromatic. Bonus: Shoes in your skintone will elongate your legs when worn with skirts or dresses. When wearing pants, wear shoes in the same color to get a similar effect.

5/ Adorn Yourself Accordingly - A simple and elegant look calls for the right jewlery to set it off. Choose bold elements that balance the delicate colors yet create a hamonious look. Try a statement bracelet dotted with Swarovski crystals, chandelier earrings or a pile of necklaces made from ribbons, crystals and pearls a romantic look. Chunky silver or gold earrings, a bracelet or necklace can provide a more understated counterpoint that finishes off a more classic approach.

Have fun with this look and don't be afraid to experiment! It's a great way to put a fresh twist on items that are probably already in your closet such as your khakis, your white button down or tee and white jeans. Put your own personal twist on this look to give it your Signature Style!

Does Your Closet Include Courage?

2011-03-14T14:58:00.002-05:00

When you look at your closet what do you see? A few suits, some pretty dresses, a couple of tops...but what about courage? You may not realize it but your clothing holds the power to give you that which you think you lack.

When we get dressed what we put on is really just an expression of how we're feeling on the inside. That could be confident, excited or proud. It could also be shy, self-conscious or bored. By dressing for our emotions and playing it safe we perpetuate what we're feeling and aren't encouraged to step out of our shells to be the woman we've always wanted to be.

In case you may have forgotten this, you possess everything inside you to be all you want to be. Yes, that's right. We often get so caught up in our own personal drama, or that of those around us, that we forget what our hopes and dreams are for ourselves. We forget that we wanted to be bold and courageous, taking risks and moving mountains. We forget that we wanted to be gorgeous and have everyone turn and look when we enter the room. We forget that we wanted to pursue our dreams and make a difference in the world. As the years pass, we forget that we even wanted that in the first place, and if we just so happen to remember, we tell ourselves it's too late.

Well let me tell you right now - it's NEVER too late! You can at any point in your life choose something better. When you do, that will have a ripple effect and those around you will benefit from your choices. Your clothing can play a huge role in this. When stepping into new territory and stepping out to be the person we always knew we were we can't just wear the same old clothes. They'll simply remind us of where we've been stuck for the past week/year/decade. You'll need to dress for who you want to be. You've probably all heard that when you want something you need to visualize yourself having/doing/being what you desire. But what I've come to realize is that many of us are not visual people. We need to SEE it. When we can dress as the person we want to be then we can see how powerful/beautiful/successful we truly are. We're filled with the courage to step into that new role because it's consistent with how we look. If we don't change our clothes it will be hard to convince our mind (which can be very stubborn) that we are any different than we were yesterday.

So take a good hard look at what you want to create in your life and start with your wardrobe. If you've always wanted to be an artist, you can't just wear tailored suits and boring colors. Add some spice to your closet! If you've always wanted to run a multi-million dollar company yet you meet with clients looking frumpy and out of style, you'll need to uplevel your image to match your goals. Change your wardrobe and you can truly change your life!

Five Minute Makeover: A New Way to Tie a Scarf

2011-03-09T10:13:00.001-05:00

Top 5 Ways to Mask a Muffin Top

2011-02-27T15:11:00.006-05:00

The muffin top, or extra skin around your midriff that spills out of your waistband in an unattractive fashion is just a fact of life for those of us who have given birth, lost or gained weight or just are experiencing the changes our body brings with age. So suffice it to say that if you have a muffin top, you are indeed in the majority.

But as common as muffin tops are, dressing to hide one can be a bit of a challenge. Often what we find in stores is fitted clothing that looks great if you're a size 4, but if you have even an extra pound on your frame you may not want to wear such show-everything clothing. So here are my top 5 suggestions to mask your muffin top and keep your cool this season:

1/ Add a Belt - Contrary to what we may think, drawing attention to our waist and adding a belt to a loose tunic or other flowy shirt can help us to look slimmer and keep a squishy middle under control. The trick? Wear a belt that's at least 2" wide, wider if you're a rock star or a goddess (it's all about your scale). It creates waistline definition while acting almost like a corset and holding you in.

2/ Layer a long Cami - Ok, so I mentioned that most of us don't want to add an extra layer, but sometimes it's ok. Like when you're wearing a tissue thin burn out cotton tee, or a thin-as air top that actually requires some coverage. When you do, add in a longer tank that will instantly slim you, especially if it's a shapewear tank that has midriff support. Wear one in a fun color and no one will know you're even wearing shapewear - they'll just see how sleek and svelte you look!

3/ Soft Waist Bands - One thing that works to create a muffin top is when your waistband is a bit tight. Opting for a skirt with a soft waist band can help to create a smooth look and will be more forgiving without sacrificing style. Pair this with a cute top for a chic look.

4/ Banded Tops - When you want to hide a little jiggle around the middle, wear a cute top that is banded at the waist. The band gives it structure while it softly flows over the rest of you and can be a forgiving look. * If you're busty, avoid banded tops with lots of fullness or gathers at the bustline or you risk looking prego.

5/ Top it Off - Sometimes just adding a second layer can cover up lumps, bumps and bulges that keep you from feeling confident. But instead of piling on something hot and heavy, opt for a lightweight knit or even gauze short sleeved topper that gently skims your body and leaves you looking tres chic! To keep your cool and avoid bulk wear a tank underneath. You could also layer a long sleeveless vest over a short sleeved shirt for a fun look.

Is Your Look Basic or Boring?

2011-02-27T07:14:00.002-05:00

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and how you see your wardrobe and personal style is largely subjective. It's also in how you present yourself. What may be basic to some may be just plain boring to others. But I want to tell you that these two words are worlds apart when it comes to building a great wardrobe.

The other day as I was shopping with a client who is embarking on a new career and needed to build a professional wardrobe, I pointed out a great dress and jacket combination that I thought would be perfect both together, but also separate as core items to create multiple outfits. Her response? How boring! I was surprised at this, but quickly realized she wasn't seeing the full potential.

Do you see your clothing as boring? Do you confuse your core pieces as ho-hum and avoid them like the plague? Then I'd like to give you a few tips to help shift your perspective and see the difference between boring and basic.

1/ First, boring means lackluster. An outfit that is boring lacks interest and energy. Who wants that? However, chances are your 'boring' outfit is just in need of a little re-frame to put things into perspective. I want you to understand just how important basic, or core, items are to your wardrobe. Think khakis, black pants, jeans, a white shirt, etc. Neutral items in your best basic colors that you can make multiple combinations with are the backbone of your wardrobe. Are they boring? Yes, on their own they certainly may appear to be. However, I'd like to encourage you to think of them as chameleons - they take on the style of whatever you put them with.

2/ Think of the Unexpected. When I get dressed one of my goals is to wear something that is unexpected. My feeling is that when I switch things up then it's attention getting, it stands out, but it still works. My goals is to wear something that absolutely works together but no one else would have thought to do just that. I want to inspire my own creativity as well as that of others.

3/ Consider the Possibilities. Sure, a basic gray dress can be plain and boring. But spice it up with a gorgeous skintoned cardigan, nude pumps and some eye catching jewelry in various shades of turquoise and you'll be anything but boring. When you think of your core (read: boring) pieces as just the foundation for many wardrobe possibilities, you uncover a lot of potential.

4/ Wear Colors in New Ways. One thing that gets boring real quick are simple, netural color combinations. Navy and khaki. Brown and khaki. Black and more black. But here's the kicker. You can easily elevate those items - and even outfits- to new heights with the addition of color. Perhaps you swap out your plain white tee for one in lavender under your brown jacket. Or try Navy, khaki and fuchsia for a vibrant trio! Black can be dressed up by adding a hint of metall ic - try a little silver or gold for a modern spin. It really is all in the mix!

5/ Don't Forget Your Accessories. By now I'm sure you've heard me singing the praises of accessories. Well, don't underestimate their power to make you look pulled together - and fabulous! They add color, texture and polish to your outfit while giving you a chance to inject a bit of your personality into the mix. Plus, they can be an inexpensive way to update your most boring pieces and let them be the backdrop for a few fabulously chic accessories that really speak to who you are.

So when you look at your wardrobe or go out shopping, don't confuse boring with basic. Basics are essentials that are necessary in every wardrobe, but boring is what happens when you're not paying attention or just feeling lazy. Take a few minutes to put a fresh twist on your basics and you'll find that the word boring is no longer a possibility!

Want to learn how to get the most from your wardrobe? Take a peek at OneChicMama.com and get more great tips on how you can look your best every day!

Get a Rosy Glow

2011-02-23T14:26:00.003-05:00

One of the season's hottest shades is honeysuckle pink and not only is it a fabulous color for those with cool complexions to add to their wardrobes, it's also a wonderful shade to add a rosy glow to your face.

Now I have to admit that I am a big fan of Bobbi Brown cosmetics, as well as a sucker for makeup palettes. After all, when you have multiple items that come in one palette it sure makes putting it on a breeze. Plus, when you're traveling a good palette, some foundation, eyeliner and mascara are really all you need!

This Pretty Face Palette from Bobbi Brown ($60) is a wonderful way to give your face a lift while streamlining your makeup routine. After all when everything is in one place it makes it hard to skip a step. I recommend these shades for cooler complexions and for women in the summer and winter seasons. If you're more on the warm side, opt for something that brings in more corals for your best look.

Candy Colored Goodness

2011-02-17T17:06:00.005-05:00

As spring draws near and we get teased with warm days like we experienced here in NC, it's time to turn your attention to updating your winter look and making it a little lighter for spring.

One of the easiest and most fun ways to do this is by adding in some fabulously fun jewelry in some of the season's best candy colored brights. This gorgeous Mama's Got a Brand New Bag Necklace from ViNT Design ($65) is so pretty it looks almost good enough to eat - but we know better! It would lend a fresh vibe to your most simple tee shirt or to your classic sheath dress. Plus, it's one of a kind and would ensure that your look is as unique as you are!

If you like pink as much as I do, and your coloring is cool, then the The Ramona ($110) is the piece for you. Try this gorgeous show-stopper, rich with purple howlite beads accented with a vintage flower pendant to take it to a whole new level. Wouldn't this look fabulous with your Easter Dress or for the steeplechase? Better hurry! This is one-of-a-kind too!

If you like your jewelry to add a little something to your outfit without taking center stage, try this gorgeous Rock Candy Necklace from Anthropologie ($38). Perfect with a simple top and cardigan, it adds a chic boho flair while enhancing your skintone with its flattering blue-green hue.

As you choose your spring jewels, you'll have as much fun as a kid in a candy store! And just think - these lovelies will last much longer than the sweet treats, without adding any unnecessary calories to your bottom line!

Celebrate with Self Love

2011-02-14T05:35:00.003-05:00

Today is Valentine's Day, a day dedicated to love. Whether you're in a relationship or on your own, there's no better time to be reminded to practice the art of self-love than now.

Yes, I want to encourage you to love yourself up! Treat yourself like you would your romantic partner, your best friend or your kids. It's time to do something nice just for you!

It's a sad reality that women talk quite ugly to themselves at times, belittling their accomplishments, begrudging themselves for eating a second piece of chocolate or berating themselves for the size of their thighs. In a recent study by Glamour Magazine, 97% of women said at least one negative thing to themselves each day. Are you in that 97%? If so, it's time to break free from the self deprecating comments and turn off the negative tape that plays over and over in your head.

“It’s your body, you can do whatever you want to with it – including love it. Choose that, just for now.” ~Sandy Kumskov

What happens when you walk around with all that negativity about yourself? For starters, your view of the world becomes glass half empty pretty quickly. Your perception of things is more negative. You become critical of others, and in doing so are critical of yourself. You build a wall around you that disconnects you from others, as well as from yourself.

I want you to tear down that wall and let your true self be revealed in all your glory! Show the world all that you have to offer and embrace yourself for who you are, rather than put yourself down for who you are not. We were not all created to be Angelina Jolie so just stop trying. And if you can't help be continue to compare yourself, ask yourself if you'd really want to deal with all her problems the tabloids have exploited over the last few months. I certainly wouldn't.

Your Challenge: To celebrate Valentine's Day I'd like to challenge you to love yourself today. No nasty comments, no looking in the mirror and putting yourself down. You may be asking, how to get back to loving yourself. After all, you've neuroligically programmed your mind to repeat those negative comments and now you don't know how to stop them. Here are a few ways to get you started. Try them and see what a difference you can make in your life, as well as in the lives of those around you!

1/ Start your day with gratitude. Write down at least 5 things you are grateful for. It will help you to shift your thinking just with this one act.

2/ Notice something about you that's gorgeous. Do you have lustrous hair, beautiful lips or a curvy shape? Do something to play it up: add a pretty hair accessory, wear a new shade of lipstick or wear a figure-flattering dress. Then note how you feel when you do just this one thing. It can help you see how beautiful you truly are! When you can begin to see your own beauty, your world expands. Seeing your own beauty is about accepting yourself for who you are- and loving every square inch of you! It’s about saying ‘YES’ to you!

3/ Use affirmations. Try this one: Comparing myself to others keeps me small, but seeing my true and unique beauty sets me free. Write it on your mirror (in lipstick:) or print it out and keep it with you. Refer back to it when you catch yourself talking negatively to yourself and see how it can help you to feel great about you!

4/ Give of yourself. Doing something nice for another, or giving a compliment, is a wonderful way to feel great about you! And more often than not, giving a compliment gets a compliment in return, which can help you feel even better! Don't keep to yourself- share yourself with the world!

5/ Do something just for you. Enjoy a piece of decadent chocolate. Take a bubble bath. Buy yourself flowers. A simple act of self-love will leave you feeling indulged and recharged.

Happy Valentine's Day!

XOXO

Size Matters

2011-02-05T08:23:00.004-05:00

A four-bedroom house. A two-seater car. A single serving of ice cream. Yes, there are times when size matters. It also matters when it comes to getting the right size clothing that fits you like a glove!

After working with clients for years to help them find clothing that works for them, I've heard it all. "Oh, I can wear anything from a 2 to a 10", "I can just have it let out and it won't be so tight", and the list goes on. But one thing I have found in my many years of dressing women is that size matters. Getting the right size, that is.

Over the past few weeks I have done quite a bit of shopping with clients and a pattern has emerged. Or better yet, I believe I have tapped into a big secret as to why so many woman have clothing that just hangs in their closet that the spent good money on, only to end up in the discard pile. I've also found where my little bit of magic comes in, and that is in finding the right size.

When I'm personal shopping for my clients, I work to the best of my ability to help them get clothing that will work perfectly for them, on several levels. Fit is the primary concern. What I've heard from clients is that too many times they'll take something in just one size into the fitting room, decide it's too small (or too big, which has been the case several times recently) and just move on to the next thing. But what they don't realize is that if they bothered to try on a size up or a size down, they could wind up with a garment that they absolutely love!

With my experience as a dressmaker, often I can think out of the box to see how clients can make just minor alterations to have a perfectly fitting garment. Just yesterday a client tried on a dress that was perfect in every way, but a bit too low-cut for work. After a few minutes of considering possibilities, we determined that if she just had the shoulders taken up a bit, not only would it alleviate the problem, but it would be an even better fit.

So here are my tips for helping you get the best fitting clothing possible:

1/Fit is Key - don't get hung up on the numbers. Whether you have to go up or go down, your goal is to have the best fit for your body, not squeeze yourself into a size 6. No one will know what size you're wearing, only how fabulous you look!

2/ Be Relentless - If you find something you love and it's a bit too big or small, find another size that will work for you. Hire a personal shopper to ensure you have the right sizes in everything. Sometimes you need to try on multiple items to get the perfect fit. Get a good fit or go home! Otherwise, you'll end up wasting money on something you'll never wear - or feel fabulous in.

3/ Explore Possibilities - If at first the outfit doesn't work, think about what you could do to change that. Sometimes a nip or tuck are all that's necessary to make a garment fit you like a glove. Many larger stores have alterations specialists who can help you to know what's possible. Don't be afraid to ask for their professional opinion, as well as what it would cost. If an overhaul is necessary, it may not be worth the cost when all is said and done.

4/ Shapewear is Key - If a dress shows every lump, bump and bulge, don't discount it completely. Sometimes just wearing shapewear, such as Spanx, will give you a sleek, smooth look and help you go from schlumpy to sexy. Department stores have begun stocking it in or near the clothing, so don't be afraid to try some on with your dress to see how great the final product can be.

5/ A Second Look - At first glance, an outfit may appear too big and too sloppy and you may discount it altogether. But give it a second look and ask yourself if the sleeves are too long, or it needs to be hemmed. Sometimes when sleeves or hem are too long a garment appears to be much bigger on you than it actually is. Roll sleeves and cuffs up or imagine your skirt shorter. If the fit still is big, go down a size. Don't allow yourself to be disillusioned when it comes to size. Look for bunching, gaping, pulling or stress on seamlines. When these are present, go up a size.

6/ A Nip and Tuck - If you're hard to fit, you're going to have to be a bit more imaginative. I have many clients whose waist is smaller in proportion than their hips. Consequently, when they try on pants or skirts, the hips fit while the waistline is gaping. This is where a creative mind, as well as an alterations specialist, can assist you in getting the right item for you. Buy a garment to fit the biggest part of you, then have the rest tailored to fit your body.

What Are You Waiting For?

2011-02-02T08:29:00.007-05:00

In working with women over the years I have been privy to all the little jabs and negative self-talk that clients tell themselves, and I have to say that I'm not happy about it for several reasons. First, because we as women deserve to feel great about ourselves each and every day! And second, because that negative self talk turns into self-sabotage that prevents us from making the changes we'd really like to make to improve both our image and our outlook.

It's the little things that we tell ourselves each and every day that add up to big differences in our lives. Putting ourselves and our lives 'on hold' indefinitely because we think we need to lose 10 pounds (or 50), we're too busy, or we don't think we can afford it begins to send the message that we're not worthy, that we don't deserve to change, that we aren't good enough...our inner gremlins come out and simply take over, leaving us to feel, well, pretty bad about our selves and putting us that much further from living the life of our dreams.

What can you do about this? Well, for starters, you can simply make the decision that you're going to take action right now and make a difference for you! Saying that you can't change the way your dress, your hairstyle or anything about your appearance until you lose 25 pounds is equivalent of saying "I'm too fat and I don't deserve to look good", isn't it? That's enough to depress you right into polishing off another box of cookies, and just perpetuates this vicious cycle.

When you change your perspective and begin to do little things for yourself, treating yourself to a gorgeous new shade of lipstick, trying a new haircut that shows off your lovely face or buying a new dress that makes you feel sexy in the body you have right now, you say YES to you! You begin to see the beauty you already possess, you feel great and have a positive attitude that brings a new spark to your life. How cool is that?

If you find yourself still stuck in the same old patterns, feeling cranky and undeserving, here are a few tips you can try to help you say YES to YOU!

1/ Write a love note to yourself. Place it on your mirror so you see it first thing in the morning! Simply phrases such as "You are Gorgeous!", "You ARE all that!" or "I love you!" are enough to begin to shift your perspective.

2/ Do something just because. Sign up for a class you've always wanted to take. Take a mental health day and go have a makeover. Buy a scarf because you LOVE it! Doing something to fulfill an inner desire and see how happy it makes you!

3/ Do something for someone else. Surprise a friend with an unsolicited compliment, treat your significant other to a romantic dinner in, pay it forward. Giving of yourself helps you to feel expansive in a loving way and feel great about yourself.

4/ Dress yourself for YOU! Forget about what you always wear, or what you think you SHOULD wear, wear what feels great to you! If that means stepping out and trying something totally new, go for it! Just make sure you love it and you're wearing it for all the right reasons.

5/ Take care of you. When you take time out for a much needed massage, get a mani/pedi or have a facial, you allow yourself to be taken care of and it feels great. It will help you rejuvenate and have more to give to those around you!

So don't wait. Embrace the amazing woman you are right now and say YES to yourself - no matter what your weight, your size or your outlook, life's too short not to experience the little things that make it special - every day!

A Makeover Is Not a Metamorphosis...

2011-01-27T10:24:00.003-05:00

We've all seen the makeover shows and witnessed what seems to be an instant transformation that takes place over a couple of days, and sometimes even in an couple of hours. While it's a wonderful way to boost your image for a big event, typically these makeovers result in very short-lived changes that often do NOT create any lasting changes. Does this surprise you?

I want to debunk the myth that a makeover, at least those as we witness on TV and in magazines, is a long-term solution to all your style issues. At least not without a little more support around it. The reason for this is that a style transformation is a process that a woman must step into. Just because you've had an expert cut your hair, do your makeup and give you some great new clothes does not mean that you're going to maintain your new style for longer than a few weeks. Now sometimes it does happen, but often women are left feeling disappointed and that they can't live up to the great look created for them, so why bother. Now this doesn't mean that you shouldn't jump at the chance to get a makeover, just that you may want to shift your mindset and your expectations around the process so that you can gain the most benefits. I'd like to offer my tips to help you step into your new look and keep the transformation going strong for years to come!

1/ Be Realistic - Whether you win a makeover contest (lucky you!) or pay a professional to help you with a new look, realize that a true transformation takes some time. Time to develop new habits, time to see yourself in a new way and time to let it sink in that yes, you really are gorgeous! After all, Rome wasn't built in a day!

2/ Be Open-Minded - Going into a makeover with the mindset that you're going to learn new ways of doing things you've done for years will serve you well. After all, there's a reason you're getting a makeover and generally it's not just for a quick fix. To learn how to make your new look last, you must be open to new ways of shopping, applying makeup and putting together an outfit. This will help the transformation to continue.

3/ Pay Attention and Ask Questions - Whether you're getting your face made over or your wardrobe overhauled, it's important to gain an understanding of what's being done so that you can replicate it. If you don't know why your stylist chose certain items for you, chances are you won't be able to do it on your own. Ask questions so you can know how to do these things for yourself once you're back in the groove of life.

4/ Commit to It - While a makeover leaves you looking great for a few hours, even a few weeks, if you fail to commit to your new look and see it just as a phase, chances are you'll go back to looking the way you did when you started. If you have your hair cut and colored, ensure that you schedule your next appointment so you don't sport 2" of roots and a shaggy style months later. If you can't do your full makeup, don't skip it altogether - do what you can. Keeping your new look up will require some effort on your part, but the investment in your image and self-image is so worth it!

5/ Take Stock - While there's nothing like having a new look to help you feel fabulous, don't feel that you're locked into this new look for years to come. Periodically taking stock of your style and making small tweaks to your hair, your makeup, your skin, your wardrobe...will keep you looking great and help you to keep the spirit of your makeover alive!

Another wonderful way to help you step into, and maintain your new look, is with the support of a style coach. A new service that I've begun offering to my clients all over the world is virtual support in the form of email, phone calls and Skype sessions. This helps you to step into their new style at your own pace, and gives you the ongoing support to feel confident in your choices and learn how to shop (and create new outfits) in a way that works for you. Would you like my support to make small changes to your style, or to take your image to a whole new level? Email me at michele@onechicmama.com and find out how you can step into your new style with ease and grace.

What Have You Done for YOU Lately?

2011-01-24T12:46:00.002-05:00

Now that the holidays are over it's time to take a breather. We've all been so busy doing everything for everyone else that we may have neglected ourselves. Well, ladies, it's time for a little TLC!

As women, we are often the caregivers for our family and we work hard to take care of those we love. Yet when we are constantly caring for others our tank becomes empty and our batteries need to be recharged. Taking time out to take care of ourselves can help us refill our tanks so that we have more to give. When we’re replenished we’re happier, more relaxed and able to take on life with a more positive attitude. Plus when we boost our image we boost our self confidence!

But where to start? If it's been so long since you've taken time out just for yourself you don't even know where to begin, here are a few suggestions to get you started. But don’t just stick to my list, take these and run wild!

1. Have your makeup updated for the new season - try new colors, techniques and products. Choose an afternoon where you have time to relax and indulge yourself so you're not feeling rushed and ask for the works. Take note of application techniques and ask questions. Then buy only those products you know you’ll really use.

2. Reassess your lingerie – do you still have bras from ten years ago? Ditch ‘em and take yourself for a bra fitting. Most lingerie boutiques and many department stores have knowledgable sales people who can help and make recommendations just for you. But don’t stop with bras. Take stock of your panties and give shapewear a try. Along with another year come new bumps and bulges. Shapewear can help smooth these out and have you looking slimmer and trimmer than ever!

3. Have a fit – do you have pants that drag the ground? Skirts that graze mid-calf? Jackets that are just enough too long that they make you look shorter? Then go through your closet and have those items that need alterations taken to the tailor. It’s amazing what alterations can do to boost your image and help your clothes fit like a glove.

4. Adorn Yourself – are you afraid of wearing accessories or don’t know where to start? Well it’s time you became in the know! Jewelry, scarves, handbags, hats and shoes are the quickest (and most fun!) way to update your look and create a polished image. Start small and create a “signature” item: if you find you really love bracelets then start a collection and wear several at once. If you love handcrafted earrings then build your outfits around them. You’ll create your own unique style in the process.

5. Don’t Lose Weight – yes, you read that right! No matter what your weight, you’re beautiful right now! What, you can’t see it because you’re hiding behind that muu muu? Well it’s high time you packed those baggy sacks away and put on clothes that show YOU off. Focus on your best assets (your eyes, your legs, your hair, your smile!) and the rest will just melt into the background. Don’t forget accessories, but most importantly, wear your confidence - you are gorgeous! Don’t be surprised if you get asked, “have you lost weight?’ Simply smile and relish the attention!

6. Make a date with yourself – when’s the last time you put YOU on your schedule or your to-do list? I want you to schedule some time just for you this week. On your calendar, in pen. It could be an afternoon of shopping or just browsing, a trip to the spa, or just some time spent at the bookstore reading magazines. My point is that you don’t have to spend any money but you do need to take some time.

7. Start a style journal – write down ideas for outfits, paste in pictures of things you think are very YOU, record any drawings of details or accessories you’d like to look for. Take some time to think about your personal style and reflect on how it’s changed over the years. What common elements do you see? Do you feel your style needs an update? If so, what could you quickly and easily change that would give you a boost?

8. Pretend you’re a tourist – dress up and wear your nicest dress, that hat you've been saving or that expensive blouse out on a lunch date with your girlfriend, your man or even yourself. You don’t have to be in New York or Paris to dress like it! Wear things in a way you wouldn’t normally in your home town. Book a reservation at that little bistro you’ve been wanting to try. Sip champagne or have a cappuccino. Take the rest of the day off for sightseeing and shopping. Stop for tea and a pastry. Take pictures and see things in a new way. You’ll go home with a fresh perspective and an appreciation for being right where you are.

9. Have a spa party – invite your girlfriends over or just powwow with your daughter. Have a special snack and do nails, tweeze brows, brush hair, play with makeup and give massages. It’s a nice “girls’ night in” and a great way to catch up on some personal grooming.

10. Play with color – if you have a closet filled with black, try experimenting with color. Wear your best colors around your face and see what kind of effect they have on your appearance and your attitude. Have your colors done so you can know for certain which blue is your very best and find the right yellow for YOU.

When Should a Trend Be Ignored?

2011-01-17T16:37:00.005-05:00

As an image consultant and style expert, I get a little giddy upon hearing about the new trends for a particular season. It's almost like Christmas, waiting in anticipation and excitement. Yet once I discover the trends for any given season I am almost always met with a feeling of disappointment. Once the trends are unveiled on the runway, they seem so fresh and exciting, and of course look amazing on the runway models! But then reality sets in and I realize that not only could I never wear half of the trends, but the majority of the population shouldn't, either.

Case in point: one of the 'hot' trends for Spring 2011 is neon brights in makeup. Now don't get me wrong - I can appreciate a good neon pink, especially when it is on my daughter's Barbie or even her skirt. But for me? No, thank you. Been there, done that, and even at the age of 15 it wasn't all that flattering.

This is a great example of when a trend should be left on the runway. Neon makeup, in my humble opinion, really does nothing for most complexions. These models, pictured, look hideous in this shade of neon pink lipstick, but, hey, it's trendy, right? Well, to me it's just plain wrong. Look at how it makes their skin look washed out in comparison and really doesn't enhance their natural beauty. It overshadows their soft features and gives them a hard edge that is just not flattering. They would do better to go with a soft pink that let their natural beauty shine through!

I am not saying no one can or should wear neon makeup, but am advising you to exercise caution when stepping up to the makeup counter. Sure, it's the latest and greatest, but don't let a young twenty-something convince you that it's going to make you look fabulous - unless you're going to an 80's costume party!

So who can wear neon?

Those with African-American complexions can carry off some of the stronger neon shades, but I would recommend them for eyes rather than lips. With a darker complexion, the colors come across more subtly and are not so arresting to the eye. Also, those with an olive or pale can try some of the brights on eyes, but do so sparingly. With neon, a little goes a long way. Don't overdo it and you'll look fabulous this spring!

But here's a word to the wise: if you don't feel like this trend is for you, by all means, overlook it and move on to something that makes you feel fabulous! I, for one, will not be sporting any type of neon makeup this season - unless there's a Xanadu party somewhere!

New Year, New Rules

2011-01-08T19:10:00.005-05:00

As we welcome in 2011, it's time to rethink our style. One of the easiest ways to give your style a boost is to give it a little bit of a re-frame. That is to say, not just look at the trends but look at the rules you have around fashion.

While fashion can be quite fickle and open to interpretation, most of us have 'rules' around style that dictate what we can wear and what we can't. But with a quick review of those rules, you'll notice that many of them are outdated or are in need of a little upgrade. I'd like to provide you with guidelines for resetting your rules around style - or breaking them altogether - to help you look your best this year!

1/ Monochromatic Looks - While this look can be popular in an I-don't-have-to-think-about-it kind of way, I want to encourage you to embrace monchromatic looks for 2011 in a whole new way. Instead of mixing black pieces (that may or may not match), try tone-on-tone as in lighter gray mixed with medium gray and topped off with charcoal. Then pop your monochromatic look with an accent of color for a fresh perspective. Also, add in texture - velvet, corduroy, jacquard or lace in the same color - to add a subtle sophistication to a simple, yet chic look.

2. White Denim - Generally saved for the summer months, white denim is now a great look year-round. Just add a turtleneck in a deep hue and a chic pair of boots to give them a cold-weather spin. Jackie O made this look fresh way back when, now you can too!

3. Trouser Jeans - These are gonna be hot this year, but in my book they're a classic. Women of every age can benefit from having a pair of these in their closet: they're flattering to all body types, they can be dressed up or down and can even make an appearance at the office other than casual Fridays. Eat your heart out, five-pockets!

4. Mixing Prints - I love to mix prints and am often surprised that so many women don't feel that they can do it. Mixing prints and/or textures is a great way to add interest to your outfit without looking overdone. The key is to have one dominant print and one supporting print. If you have more than one, just let one take center stage for best effect. As long as the colors relate, you're golden.

5. Daytime Glitz and Glam - Not just for parties anymore, sequins, beaded clothing and anything with a little sparkle is now perfect for daytime. But here's the catch: it must be dressed down. You don't want to be strolling down the aisles of the grocery looking as though you're ready for a black-tie affair. It's all in the mix: try a sequin or beaded tank under a casual cardigan and a pair of trouser jeans for an understated yet unexpected look. Or add in a shimmering scarf to your basic black for a festive touch.

6. Less is More - When it comes to accessories, step away from the matchy-matchy look of earrings and a necklace set (too matronly) and opt for a statement piece instead. Go for a bold statement necklace, then if you must wear earrings stick with simple studs. If you'd prefer statement earrings, skip the necklace and wear a pretty scarf instead. Let your jewelry get the attention it deserves without having competition.

7. A New Neutral - My clients and readers have all heard me say that black is not everyone's best color. If it's not yours, pick a new neutral that makes you shine and find ways to work it into your wardrobe in any way that you'd wear black - a coat, shoes, boots, pants, etc. Try different shades of it (see #1) to create depth. How to find your best neutral? Easy. Just look at your haircolor(s). If you have brown hair, opt for shades of espresso, chestnut, or mocha. Blonde tones? Caramel, camel, beige. Salt and pepper? Charcoal, black, light gray, white. Redheaded? Opt for rust, caramel and warm colors with reddish undertones. When you repeat your personal coloring it's incredibly flattering and only makes you look better!

If your style needs a re-boot for the new year, contact me at michele@onechicmama.com to set up a complimentary 15-minute Get Acquainted session to find out how you can look your best!

What Does Your Perfect Wardrobe Look Like?

2011-01-08T19:04:00.001-05:00

Have you ever thought about what your perfect wardrobe would look like? I have and I feel that, after years of shopping and planning, I'm very close to achieving it. But many women never have the opportunity to experience their perfect wardrobe. It's not that it's out of their reach, but simply because they haven't defined what it looks like.

Most women are not taught how to build a wardrobe. Often we just hit the shops in search of inspiration and wind up purchasing the first thing that we like, regardless if it's a good match for us. It may seem odd to hear that many of my clients who really do not like to shop have come the closest to building their perfect wardrobes. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that a lack of shopping will result in a closet filled with your ideal items. But for my clients who either don't like shopping or don't have the time for it, they understand the importance of having the right pieces that work for them and they can avoid those last minute shopping trips because they plan in advance.

Let's talk for a minute about what your perfect wardrobe looks like. Sure, it's going to be different from mine or from your best friend's. But there will be certain common elements that will carry you through right in style. First, it will probably contain versatile pieces that can take you through a season (and sometimes through the year). Second, imagine it filled with pieces that mix and match, based on a strategy that will support in getting dressed quickly and easily time and again. And third, envision it filled with items that you just can't wait to wear! Getting dressed becomes a joy and something that you even find yourself looking forward to. Sound too good to be true? Read on!

Now don't get me wrong - I'm not saying that to have the perfect wardrobe you must NOT shop. Quite the contrary. But this time of year when the sale season begins, I want to give you a few guidelines to help you add in the pieces that you truly need! To build your perfect wardrobe, here are some things to think about:

1/ Does it Feel Good? If your ideal outfit is yoga pants and a tank, yet you must wear suits to work, there's gonna be a problem. But take cues from your preferences and find suits that have some stretch and even incorporate some knit elements for comfort. Wearing clothes that feel good is a must!

2/ Does it Work for Your Lifestyle? You may find the most gorgeous formal dress on sale and absolutely love it. But if you haven't worn anything formal for the past 10 years, chances are it will just take up space (and whittle down your budget). Skip it and opt for items you can wear day in and day out and dress up or down for maximum versatility.

3/ Does it Make You Feel More Like You? When you get dressed you want to feel more like yourself, not like the saleswoman who sold it to you, your mother or your daughter. Ask yourself this question before you take the item home.

4/ Does it Flatter Your Body? I know I'm guilty of having bought items in the past that were a particular designer or were such a great deal but, in all honestly, really were not cut for my curves. Guess what happened to them! They never made it out of the house. This is money down the drain right here, ladies. And please don't buy anything to wear AFTER you lose those 5 or 10 pounds. It's simply self-sabotage! Dress for who you are right now and feel fabulous!

5/ Does it Make You Look Great? Ok, so it fits you and plays up your curves. But is the color right? Are the details well-placed to create balance? What will you wear it with?

Your Assignment: Take stock of your wardrobe and what you really need. Then begin adding in one piece at a time, seeing how many outfits you can make using each item. When you're discerning in the fitting room you'll reap the rewards for years to come.

Bonus: Take pictures (Polaroids work great here, but digital are fine too) to capture the looks and give you inspiration on those days you need it.

Are You Getting Dressed in the Dark?

2010-12-17T01:03:00.001-05:00

When you go to get dressed in the morning do you pull on your old stand-by's without batting an eye? Or do you give careful consideration to each item you choose, making sure it fits, is in great shape, and really flatters you?

Pulling on an outfit that's passed its expiration date may very result in the discovery that the knees of your pants are worn thin, your cardigan is too small and, when you look closely, really doesn't flatter you anymore. Do you feel like you're getting dressed 'in the dark'? If so, take a peek at my easy solutions to illuminate your wardrobe and your image!

1/ Know Thyself - Ok, this may seem like a no brainer. But have you taken stock of, well, YOU lately? What do you really look like, right here, right now. Have you lost weight, gained weight, has your coloring changed, have things shifted? Like it or not, when you can take a hard look and really acknowledge where you are, both physically and personally, then you're halfway to looking great already. Many wardrobe mistakes and misalignments occur when we ignore our current situation and still think of ourselves as we did 5, 10 or more years ago. Get current with yourself and you'll get current with your wardrobe.

2/ Be Honest - Now that you know who you are, do you know how to dress for it? Look closely and notice if you're wearing something that, perhaps, you ought not wear. Is your top bursting at the buttons, your pants splitting at the seams? Perhaps you just need some shapewear to smooth out the lumps and bumps under your dress. Whatever it is, take note, but be kind to yourself. You're your best asset!

3/ Take Stock - If your last shopping trip dates back to when the kids were in middle school, or if you can't remember the last time your wardrobe got a boost, then this step will help you uncover some real reasons why you're not feeling fabulous when you get dressed. Give yourself a judicious closet audit (or hire a professional) and get clear on what's in your wardrobe - and why! You want to have items in there that make you feel great, not those things that you feel you 'should' have, or clothes you haven't worn in 10 years but you just can't bear to part with. Ladies, when you go to your closet, it should be filled with items that you love, or help to create outfits that you love. Anything else is just filler and will lead you on a fast path to frustration if not remedied. Remember, having more clothes does not always equal having plenty that you want to wear.

4/ Make and Do - If the thought of crafts bores you to tears, then having a closet that's a 'project' will not do much to inspire you. Go shopping immediately and do not pass Go. Just kidding - sort of! But if you're a little creative and like to experiment I'd like to encourage you to get in your closet and look at it with a fresh perspective. Are there any items you could bring in to make new outfits with what you already have? Take note and look for these on your next shopping trip. Are there any alterations or changes you could make to update certain pieces? Think new buttons on your favorite jacket or cardigan, shortening a skirt to knee-length, taking in a jacket that's always been too big or boxy. Consult an alterations specialist to have the more complicated things done.

5/ Shop 'til You Drop - While you're the midst of shopping for everyone else on your list, make some time for you. Whether it's a new winter coat that would make you feel fabulous, or a whole wardrobe, now is a great time to invest in yourself so you can look and feel great. After all, over the next few weeks you'll likely be seeing many more friends and family members than you have all year. Don't you want to look your best? Schedule some time during the week to hit a few stores and plan your strategy. Wandering aimlessly may result in you coming home with an outfit that looked better on the sales girl than on you!

Eyebrow Threading

2010-12-15T15:34:00.003-05:00

Yesterday I had the experience of having my eyebrows threaded for the second time, and I must say that I, once again, was very pleased with the effect it produced.

If you're not familiar with eyebrow threading, it's a popular method of facial hair removal that has been used for centuries in the Middle East, Europe and Asian countries. Unlike waxing, brow threading removes even those short, stubbly hairs that can be tricky, while leaving skin silky smooth. While this method is safe, it is not pain-free, but it is less painful than waxing.

Triangle Eyebrow Threading by Chandni's in Raleigh is where I went and she did an amazing job! I love the shaping and my brows look fabulous (if I do say so myself). Plus, they take walk-ins so if you're in the area and have a few minutes you can just swing by and for $7 your brows can look like those of an Egyptian queen!

One Dress, Three Ways

2010-12-14T15:20:00.005-05:00

Believe it or not, Christmas is a week from Friday. That means that the festive holiday season, or the 'holiday roll' as friends deemed it years ago, is well under way and will last through New Year's Day. What that means is that our wardrobe will begin working overtime to make it to all the parties, luncheons and get-togethers that happen in a very short period of time. If you haven't' already, I want to help you start planning your outfits now so you're not rushing around at the last minute, reaching for the ubiquitous (but B-O-R-I-N-G) 'little black dress'. Why not try something with a little more color to brighten up your look? Turns out color can be just as versatile as black, and here are three different looks to prove it.

We gave this gorgeous dress in a luscious purple three different spins. Substitute your favorite style (or color) dress and see how far you can go with a classic, even in a vibrant hue!

This look is perfect for a dressier occasion such as a cocktail party or the annual office holiday party. Instead of black as the focus, it's the accent color, adorned with crystals, studs and beading to create a play on texture. The beaded sweater is pretty worn on top of the dress, or substitute a pretty shawl for a more classic look.

Try adding a metallic touch and see how you'll sparkle! These sassy, strappy heels have some great detail, while providing a very sophisticated look. Add a pretty beaded belt in lieu of a necklace (very unexpected) and grab this fab leopard print metallic clutch. For added punch, top it off with this stunning pewter jacket for a shot of urban chic. A pashmina or shawl would give this ensemble a more feminine touch.

This third grouping is my favorite! It dresses the purple dress down a bit and takes it to a cocktail party, your child's school open house or to a friends' home for dinner. The boots add a sexy touch and the necklace and clutch put a funky spin on it. I couldn't resist adding two options - both a jacket and a sweater - for two different looks. I love this fitted denim jacket with waistline detail for a funkier night out (dancing 'til dawn!) or top the dress of with this cozy cardigan with ribbon detail for a night of caroling or a cookie exchange.

See how easy it is? You don't always have to reach for black. Just have a fabulous alternative in your closet, ready at a moment's notice, and you'll soon find yourself moving beyond the little black dress.

Functional Luxury for Your Feet

2010-12-09T11:38:00.004-05:00

It's that time of year for many of us when the weather not only turns chilly, but amplifies the effect with a combination of rain, sleet or snow. It makes venturing out into the icy climes more challenging than ever before. However challenging it may be, you can rest assured that your choice of footwear won't completely throw your style right out the window with some of these chic boots from Aquatalia.

Bridging the gap between functional footwear and chic styling, Aquatalia marries graceful Italian design with technology to keep your tootsies toasty and dry.

With the chic styling options from this family-operated footwear designer, you can brave the elements and feel confident that your feel will look fabulous without having to suffer!

5 Ways to Look Amazing this Holiday Season

2010-12-07T13:41:00.002-05:00

Thanksgiving has come and gone and, like it or not, the holiday season is now officially in full swing. No matter what you're celebrating, this is the time of year for parties, open-houses, school performances, gift-exchanges and so much more! If all this holiday cheer has you feeling more like Ebenezer Scrooge than it does Jolly Old Saint Nick, then keep reading.

It can be a challenge to look great at the seemingly non-stop barrage of festive gatherings, so I've put together my best tips to keep you looking fabulous, day after day. But more than looking fabulous, this season is all about enjoying time with friends, family and the spirit of sharing. Here's how to make it more enjoyable all around:

1/ Get Plenty of Rest Sure, easier said than done, you may say. But let's get real. Not getting enough sleep does more than leave you with bags under your eyes - it wears down your immune system, making you more susceptible to viral infections, it often makes you overeat, but most of all it makes you grumpy. So do what it takes to get those 7-8 hours in nightly and take good care of you!

2/ Personal Care You can't look good if you're not taking good care of yourself. This includes everything from eating well to exercising to getting a massage to help ease stress. If you find it impossible to take time out for you, create appointments on your calendar for a 15-minute meditation session, a healthy lunch or even a nap! If you're not healthy than you're not going to look good, no matter what! But even worse, you're not going to enjoy the holidays if you let them take their toll on your health. Ask for help, hire a personal chef or trainer and do what it takes to feel great!

3/ Create a Beauty Plan Looking great doesn't just happen, it takes maintenance. If you haven't been keeping up with personal beauty appointments such as a mani/pedi or having your hair done,don't despair. Simply make a list of everything you would like to have done and then mark those non-negotiables in red! These are the items you wouldn't think of showing up at a party without having done. Then schedule your appointments PRONTO! Better yet, go ahead and book the next couple of appointments, mark them on your calendar and breathe easy knowing they're already set up. If you aren't able to get in with your regular stylist, don't be afraid to try someone new – but always get a recommendation first to avoid any regrets.

4/ Create a Wardrobe Strategy No, you can't just wear the same black pants, black top and pretty sweater to EVERY event. I want to encourage you to think outside the box and get creative. Spend a little time with your wardrobe this weekend (or whenever you have some spare time) and see what you can come up with that's creative.

Sure, you can wear the same core items a few times in a row but try to mix it up a little bit. A few tips:

a/Mix in metallics with your neutrals for a festive, sophisticated and subtle look.
b/Opt for charcoal gray, caramel or camel in place of black. Mix in your best red, purple or even turquoise for an on-trend look that amps up your style.

c/ Add new accessories to an 'old' outfit. The easiest way to jazz up your classics is to bring in new accessories - add a belt, a colorful cardigan or jacket, some chic jewelry and a great pair of boots--and you'll be looking fabulous in no time flat!

5/ Get Happy The holidays are no fun if you're not enjoying them, and if you're cranky or feeling like the Grinch, you're putting a damper on everyone else's enjoyment too! Do what it takes to get in a good frame of mind, whether it's taking a walk, calling a friend, or just having five minutes to yourself. If you find this hard, focus on what you're grateful for. Then get out there and get happy - or go home (and that's OK too - we all get burned out at times).

Whether you're party hopping this season or enjoying many quiet nights at home, I hope it's a wonderful time to remember.

Mary Michele LittleYour Signature Stylist^(TM)

www.onechicmama.com

What to Wear to a Football Game

2010-12-03T19:37:00.001-05:00

It's that time of year where there's a chill in the air and football games abound. Whether you prefer high school, college or pro, dressing appropriately is one thing that can make the experience much more fun. But this can also pose many challenges. First of all, once the weather turns cold, as it is in many parts of the country, looking chic while sitting outdoors in freezing temps for several hours can seem next to impossible. But don't despair - with a few tricks up your sleeve you'll be looking fabulous at your next football game! Follow these simple steps and you'll create a look that's chic while keeping you warm and showing your team spirit!

1/First, start with a good pair of jeans. I prefer dark-wash, trouser cut for women over 40 for the most flattering look. But whatever style you choose, make sure they fit well. You're going to want to be comfy as you indulge in hot dogs and nachos or tail-gate favorites such like fried chicken and barbecue (for us Southerners).

2/ Think layers. You're going to be outdoors where it may be chilly, but if you're in direct sunlight you may find yourself burning up. Also, if you're in a shady part of the stadium, or it's an evening game, bundle up. A long sleeve shirt, a sweater, and a very warm jacket will ensure that you're well insulated.

3/ Color: while bundling up may not easily lend itself to sporting your team's logo, you can wear their colors in multiple ways - think a scarf, gloves, hat, even pom poms. Or go for a jacket or boots in their color if you're feeling bold.

4/ Comfortable shoes that also look chic can really make your look. Why not try a pair of boots with a wedge heel? Boots come in all colors, textures and heights and are a wonderful way to be on trend while staying warm.

5/ Don't forget the sunscreen! Even if it's freezing outside, if you're attending a day game the sun will hopefully be shining. And that means sun-protection is essential! Yes, you can get sunburned even in November.

6/ If you're going to a game and the weather's not very cold, try wearing a lightweight neutral color jacket and boots with jeans and add in a top in your team's color, add a chic necklace or a scarf and you'll look elegantly appropriate for tailgating and enjoying the big day!

When it's time to kick-off, rest assured that you'll look chic, casual and oh-so-appropriate. Go Team!

How to Wear Jeggings For Your Body Type

2010-11-30T11:41:00.003-05:00

By now you’ve surely noticed that jeggings, that hybrid of jeans and leggings, are all the rage. For those of you who have embraced jeggings but aren’t sure how best to wear them to flatter your body type, here are my suggestions for getting the most from this look:

Linear Body Type – You’re long, lean and have few, if any, curves. The skinny fit of jeggings is perfect for your lithe, athletic body type. Try pairing jeggings with a long tunic. Layer on a jacket to create the illusion of curves. A pair of ballet flats will finish this look off with style.

Apple Body Type – Apples carry their weight in the tummy area. When worn correctly jeggings can show off your assets. Try a pair of cropped jeggings in a dark color and top it off with a roomy tunic in a deep, rich color that gently skims the body while making you look slimmer. Elongate your legline with a pair of nude shoes and draw the eye upward with a gorgeous pair of earrings.

Pear Body Type – Pears carry their weight below the waist and are generally curvy in this area. Ensure you select a pair of jeggings that fit you well in this area – high-waisted are best – and keep you covered without creating a muffin top. A printed tunic will draw the eye upward and a statement necklace will keep the focus where you want it – around your face.

Hourglass Body Type – If you’re curvy both above and below the waist, chances are you’re an hourglass. Be sure to choose jeggings that enhance your curves. A darker wash minimizes your hips and thighs. Team these with a vibrant print tunic, but be sure to belt it to make the most of your small waist.

My best advice is to adopt only those trends that really make you feel more like yourself. If jeggings are a definite no go, by all means please substitute your favorite pair of bootcut denim for jeggings and you’ll have a look that will be flattering and feel more like you.

Michele Little
Your Signature Style Coach
One Chic Mama, Inc.
www.onechicmama.com
“What you wear tells the world who you are.”

*This story was originally published in the Cary Citizen.

Plump Your Skin

2010-11-29T06:34:00.004-05:00

As the weather turns chilly - no, wait, make that cold - and we crank up the heat, our skin quickly becomes depleted of moisture. And that means that the threat of wrinkles appearing (Heck, who am I kidding?) moves to the number one spot of things we dread.

So last night when I was noticing that my skin looked like it could use a tall, cool one, I decided to give Yves Rocher's Serum Vegetal Force+ Night a try. At first use this stuff felt amazing. Thick and rich, it was better than wrapping up in a cozy bathrobe. I felt pampered and indulged, even as my 4-year old sat trying to do number 11 (as he likes to call it) on the potty. It offered a few mere seconds of bliss, then it was back to the real world.

But the results speak for themselves. If my almost-43-year-old skin is even capable of resembling a baby's bottom that this is as close as it gets. I awoke to the seeming miracle of my skin looking plump and firm, with those tiny lines being kept at bay for, oh, at least a few more days.

But the best part? If you don't yet know about Yves Rocher yet then you're in for a treat because these amazing French products are packed with botanical goodness, instead of ingredients whose names you can't even pronounce. They have a beauty history that spans 50 years, and they even cultivate their own plants, ensuring that what you put on your skin is good for it.

Plus, right now you can save 45% off Yves Rocher products (so stock up on this stuff or even try the Plumping Force+ Day cream to keep the magic going all day long. At just $25.30 each on sale, this is way cheaper than Botox!

Watch It!

2010-11-23T06:25:00.002-05:00

This season watches have commanded center stage, but they're not the watches you have known and loved for years. No, the hottest watches for right now are gonna make you sit up and take notice. Larger than the sleek and delicate watches we've been used to for women, the watches du jour are statement watches and bring a whole new perspective to the art of time keeping.

Michael Kors has stepped to the forefront with his luxury-inspired watches at an affordable price and an array that will leave you drooling. His Crystal Chronograph Watch is very much a classic with a twist - the hint of tortoise shell warms it up and gives it just enough punch to keep it from being boring (not that any of his styles are...) yet keeping it as neutral as Switzerland so that it will go with just about anything in your wardrobe.

For those of you with preference for silver, this Rectangular Case Chronograph Watch will look chic for years to come while being neutral enough to coordinate with just about anything.

When selecting a watch, there are a few things you want to keep in mind:

1/ Choose your best metal. Is gold better for your skintone or silver? You'll want to select a watch in the metal that works best for you, but also that coordinates with your wedding ring and the metal you wear most for best effect. Creating a consistent look in your metals will create harmony. If you alternate metals, consider selecting a watch that incorporates both.

2/ Your face shape determines the best watch face for you. If your face is more angular, opt for a square or rectangular face shape. If it's more rounded, a round face will be most flattering.

3/ Consider your personal scale. The watches I highlighted are bigger and more oversized than the norm, but are not appropriate for everyone. If you're on the petite side, opt for something smaller than these but still bigger than you'd usually wear. Whatever your size, wear something that is just a step up from what you'd normally wear to keep your look balanced.

Today's oversized watches are worn loose and slouchy. Also consider, if this is not your best look, choose the look that best reflects your personal style. If you choose something that really speaks to who you are, you can't go wrong!

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Is Wearing Black Making You Fat?

2010-11-21T07:54:00.004-05:00

Ok, we've all heard that we simply MUST have black in our closets. It's simple, versatile, easy to dress up or down, and slimming. Or is it? Quite frankly, all this wearing of black just may be making you fat! Let me explain.

So many women that I encounter have a closet filled with black because that's what we're told to wear by "people in the know" (not me - I strongly dispute this, if you can't tell). But what I've discovered is that black, instead of being something that we put on and feel fabulous in, is more a form of camouflage. It becomes something that we pull on, head to toe, when we're feeling a little on the heavy side, to create that visually slimming effect. Can you relate? But what happens when we're hiding out behind our black is that we don't often notice when a pound or two - or ten - creep up on us. Remember, black makes us look thinner. Uh-oh.

But more than that, the color black is energetically somber and depressing, rather than uplifting. My theory is that when we wear black we're less likely to socialize and exercise and more likely to take a second helping of that chocolate cake. Yikes! So now what?

Here's my prescription : a healthy dose of vibrant COLOR, with a few prints mixed in for good measure. Why? Well first, let me say that when you wear bright or even light colors, more of your bumps and bulges show (so ensure you're wearing your Spanx!). This may not be your goal, but please hear me out. When you notice those bumps and bulges you're more likely to pay attention to what you're eating and be aware of when you begin filling your clothes out a bit more. This works as a monitor to let you know when you've over-done it or when you have some wiggle room and can be a very easy way to keep you in check. I know few women who like the feeling of having a few pounds slip up on them. Think of this as your self-monitor.

Also, when you wear color, especially your best bright colors, they just can't help but boost your mood. When you're feeling happy you're much more likely to be active, whether it's flitting around the party talking to all your friends, or getting off the couch and out for a power walk. But also, when you wear color you stand out! People notice you so there's no hiding out. Your true beauty comes through and you're whole energy level is lifted. Think about this - has the 'life of the party' ever been the one wearing black? NO! She's the one in the red dress, the fuchsia blouse, the purple pumps. Now if you're saying to yourself that you don't want to be the life of the party, ask yourself why not? How would it feel to step out of yourself and just be in the flow? Pretty darn good!

So instead of playing it safe this holiday season, step out in some color and see how it can help you avoid a few extra pounds while having more fun to boot!

Mary Michele Little
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5 Easy Steps to Becoming Beautiful

2010-10-27T06:27:00.005-05:00

Too often I hear my clients, friends and women in general talk negatively about themselves, saying things such as "My hips are too big", "I need to lose about 20 pounds" or "My clothes are horrible." Not very uplifting, is it? Yet that's the kind of self-talk that many of us have running through our minds as we compare ourselves to the unrealistic expectations that have been created for us by the fashion and beauty world. And when we compare ourselves to the celebrities, models and imagery that we are bombarded with, it's only natural that we think of them as the 'ideal' of beauty. Do we need to run out and have liposuction, a breast enhancement and Botox? No, what we need is a re-frame!

Now let's talk about the ideal of beauty. You were born beautiful and you grew up beautiful. Whether you felt it or not is another story. But when we can step away from our self-talk and our unrealistic expectations that do nothing but set us up for failure, we can begin to see our beauty unfold in an amazing way! Follow these steps and you'll begin to see yourself in a whole new light:

1/ Quit comparing yourself to celebrities and even your friends! I know, celebrity style is everywhere and every magazine thinks we want to look just like them. Well guess what! We don't, and we couldn't even if we tried. Holding ourself against such unrealistic expectations (heck, even the celebs don't look like the pictures in the mags. Photoshop works wonders on a few extra pounds) can erode our self-esteem and undermine our confidence. And it's just plain silly, so stop it right now!

2/ Take a good long look in the mirror and take note of what you see. If any negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with a positive one of gratitude. If you start to think, "I wish my hair were long and luxurious just like Jennifer Aniston's", give yourself a re-frame: "I am grateful for my fabulous short hair that enhances my face and makes styling quick and easy." Does Jennifer Aniston have gorgeous hair? You bet, but yours is pretty darn fabulous too! And if you're not happy with your current style perhaps it's time to try something new.

3/ Notice what's great about you and play it up! Do you have the most beautiful blue eyes? Then wear a blue shirt that makes them pop! How about a great complexion or gorgeous long legs? Try a beautiful new shade of lipstick or wearing a short skirt. Take note of what's good about you and put your attention on that. When you play up the positive and focus on what you love about yourself, the rest just fades into the background.

4/ Dress for the body you have right now. Wear clothing that fits your body, shows your shape and helps you to create balance. Are you a size 16? Great, then get yourself an outfit that flatters you to the hilt and strut your stuff! Are you a size 6? Then I'll give you the same advice. Hint: No matter what size you are, don't hide behind big, baggy clothes. They'll just make you look bigger and will give you a frumpy look that's not flattering on anyone.

5/ Wear clothing that makes you feel incredible! I mean it. When you get dressed and put on an outfit you LOVE that really expresses who you are, it's magical! You just feel more like you - but the best part is how it can boost your confidence! When you look in the mirror and see a chic, pulled-together woman you can help but say "YES!" to yourself. And when you say yes to yourself, the world says yes to you!

Looking great and feeling beautiful are about so much more than just the clothes you wear. I want to see you not only look fabulous on the outside, but on the inside too. Because when you feel fabulous and look fabulous it impacts everyone around you! You radiate confidence and the world is a different place. So, are you ready to see how beautiful you really are?

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Think Pink...and Purple...and Red...

2010-10-12T17:50:00.003-05:00

Fall is in full swing and that means it's time to pull on our fall colors. But do you know what they are this season?

Sure, fall's palette, as dictated by the forecasters of color, Pantone, include some very trad fall tones icluding golden glow and woodbine. But did you know that Living Coral, Purple Orchid and Lipstick Red were some of the season's hottest hues?

Now, how to wear them. Well let me first say this. My goal, as Your Signature Style Coach, is to help you understand how to get the best look for YOU. While that means occasionally following the trends to a T, it most often means interpreting them in ways that best suits you.

For example, Living Coral is a gorgeous shade but it's not going to be the most flattering shade of pink on many of us (myself included). So what I recommend is to find your best shade that's in a similar hue and wear it as if it's the hottest shade of the season (after all it is, for you).

The easiest color for women to wear in this fall palette is the Lagoon. Pronounced 'the color for 2010', this vibrant shade of turquoise flatters most skintones and is a gorgeous shade on anyone.

I'd like to pass along some of my best color tips to help you wear color with confidence this season:

1/ If you're not used to wearing much color, take baby steps. Start by wearing a mid-tone or bold hue in your accessories such as a necklace or a scarf. Once you're comfortable with it, try a jacket or a top in your favorite bright and see how it can boost your mood as well as your skintone!

2/ If you're used to wearing a lot of black and you want to incorporate color, be mindful of the effect black has when paired with a bright. If your coloring is light and you wear black on bottom with a bold top, the overall effect may be too harsh for you and be overwhelming. Try pairing a bright color on top with chocolate brown, caramel or khaki - even denim - for a more flattering look.

3/ Don't let the trends dictate the exact colors you wear. Use them as a starting point. Say you like the purple orchid but you love a deeper purple more. Wear what makes you feel great is my philosophy because when you love what you wear it shows in everything you do.

4/ Experiment with your best basics, such as black. Find a deep color like the chocolate truffle that can act as a stand in. Who knows - you may very well find an alternative that looks much better on you than black!

5/ Color is the easiest way to update your wardrobe. If you're wearing your old stand-by LBD, make it pop with some vibrant accessories in a current shade and no one will know it's been in your closet for 5+ years!

6/ Find your Signature Colors! Select 2 or 3 of your best brights and use those throughout your wardrobe, in your home, in your marketing and you will feel like your life is personalized to you!

Wearing color with confidence can help you to step out in style!

Don't know what colors best flatter you? Email me to find out how you can discover your 40 best colors and nail it every time! michele@onechicmama.com.

How To Win On Fashion Penny Auction Sites

2010-10-04T12:58:00.004-05:00

Note: The following is a guest post from the lovely Millissa Mathai, Editor in Chief, Haute Mimi. Enjoy!

If you're a die hard fashionista then you are probably going crazy for fashion auction sites like Oohilove and Jojolie, which allow you to bid on authentic designer bags and accessories and win them for 90% to 99% off their retail prices.

Unlike Ebay these sites do not let you manually place a bid. Instead you purchase bid packages and every time you press the "bid" button, the price of the item increases slightly from a start of $0 or $1 and the time remaining on the auction also increases slightly. Rules differ by site but if you can master the game, you will be able to reap the rewards of buying coveted designer items for a few dollars.

Now that fashion auction sites are becoming more popular it is becoming even harder to snag that to-die-for bag for dirt cheap, but don’t worry we've got you covered with some insider tips from the fashionistas at the premier online fashion auction site LuxeWin (http://luxewin.com) on how to maximize your chances of winning that item you have your eye on!

Tip #1 Review the Fashion Auction sites and Choose the Right One for you
The sites differ in many ways, including the types of fashion items offered (LuxeWin is more Contemporary, Oohilove is more Luxury, JoJoLie is more Classic, etc.), the cost of purchasing bids, the auction rules, the number of Free Bids that you get, the number of bidders per auction, etc. Focus on the one site that has the products that you want and the right mix of factors to increase your chance of winning.

Tip #2 Study the Bidding Patterns of Prior Winners
Each site allows you to view past auction wins. Note the user names of frequent winners. These “whales” often win because they are willing to throw a large number of bids at a particular auction item, so you don’t want to get into a bidding war with them if you can avoid it. Conversely, you will see that some winners are able to win using very few bids and at very advantageous prices. Was it time of day, type of item, time overlap with another auction that ran long? Look for patterns that will give you the advantage.

Tip #3 Use your Free Bids
Sites generally offer new players from 1 on (Oohilove) to as many as 5 on (LuxeWin) Free Bids for registering. Use them before considering the purchase of a Bid Pack. Clustering them in one auction is usually more successful than spreading them out across multiple auctions.

Tip #4 Don't Bid Untll the Last 10 Seconds or so
Do not waste your bids early on in the game. Wait till the auction clock reaches the last few seconds to start bidding. Keep in mind that waiting too long can cause your bid to not make it to the site’s server on time due to your internet connection and other factors, so generally 5 seconds or so is as late as you may want to be.

Tip #5 Start with Beginners Only Auctions
Most sites have them and reserve them for those bidders that have not yet won an auction. The auction item is usually of lesser value, or a Bid Pack, but there are fewer bidders and no “whales” to compete against. Here’s where you can test strategic approaches against other newer bidders.

Tip #6 Select which Auctions to Bid on Carefully
If you’ve studied the pattern of prior auctions, you should see that there are certain days of the week, times of the day and types of items that are less competitive. There will be a lot more bidders for the Jimmy Choo Bag than for the Rachel Leigh Earrings. Don’t bid on items that you really don’t want but don’t throw away your bids hoping beyond hope that you will win a $1,500 item with just a few bids either. Work the system to your advantage.

Tip #7 Be In It to Win It
Don’t participate with a few bids in many auctions but rather concentrate your bids on the very few that really matter. You have got to be willing to put a sizable number of bids behind your involvement in an auction to ensure that you outlast other bidders. Buy plenty of Bids in advance to make sure that you don’t run out mid-auction.

Tip #8 Consider Using the Bid Concierge To Bid For You
Enlist the help of a bid assistant to help you win the auction. You can input the price at which you’d like the Concierge to start bidding for you, the price at which you’d like the Concierge to stop bidding for you and the number of bids you would like for it to place. Many of the “whales” have learned to use the Bid Concierge effectively. On many high value items, the highest bidder frequently engaged the Bid Concierge to secure the win.

Tip #9 Keep the Faith and Have Fun
Don’t expect to win right away or to win without purchasing bids. The Free Bids give you a chance to get a taste of the action and a feel for how it all works without risk. Winners buy plenty of bids and are willing to commit when they select an auction they want to win. They don’t win every time, and didn’t necessarily win in the beginning, but they continued and developed strategies that have paid off for them. You can be a winner too if you learn how to work the system to your advantage.

Happy Bidding!